I ended my friends-with-benefits situation today. The second the words came out, I regretted it. I shouldn't regret it, because it was the right decision. I developed feelings. He didn't.
And I ended it, but didn't tell him that it was because of feelings.
He was cool with it ending, but there is this annoying part of me that just wishes I'd kept my mouth shut, despite knowing that it would have been really bad for me to keep it up when I had feelings.
I think I just need reassurance that I did the right thing. I know that I did, really I do. But I'm having a little bit of difficulty dealing with the fact that I won't get to have wild crazy sex with him anymore. It was really, really good sex. He's an incredible lover, and I tried so hard to stay detached but it got to the point where it was consuming my every thought, and I just spent all day thinking about it and wishing it was more and hating myself for settling for less.
So I did what I had to and walked away, and now what I'm looking for is just a little bit of a firm reminder that doing exactly that - walking away - is something that I will be glad I did sooner rather than later.
Why does it hurt? It wasn't even anything, but I feel so down about not getting to be with him in that capacity again. Help!
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Sounds like you knew what you had to do, you did it, and you're in that phase where you're wondering if it really was worth it. Trust me, it was worth it - and I commend you, it's hard ending a relationship that's going to get you hurt in the long run, even in the short term it seems so painful. Just give yourself a little time for your emotions to settle, and you'll see that you did the right thing.2