Why is my ex befriending one of my friends on fb?

[Anonymous]

I have a gay guy friend who happens to be one of my closest friends. My ex met him because of me. Recently, after the breakup. When i blocked him on fb a year after the breakup. He decided to request my friend on fb and start convo (on politics). He's been requesting my friend 5 times. After my friend accepts and deletes or blocks him. My ex is dating someone so...

The 5th time (recent, 1 year 4 months after) my friend decided to find out why
he was like "hey you should text me if you want to talk rather than messaging."
ex: i dont have much to talk about. I just want to keep you as a facebook friend.

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This the 5th time my ex has requested my best guy friend on fb, why?

[Anonymous]

I see all these posts about EXes... Why does my ex not like me? This and that about an ex... should we get back together...

An EX means.. in the past. In my life, after any break up, an EX is out of my mind. I move on almost immediately and never think of, try to contact, check up on, etc...

Breakups happen for a reason...

I'm not talking about someone who moved away... I'm talking about relationships that ended due to cheating, abuse, incompatibility and such...

Who CARES about an EX? Who cares about what an EX thinks of them?

Then "breaks"... what's that all about? all this is is an admission you can't commit in a relationship. Taking a vacation from a relationship isn't going to fly.

ALSO... getting back together after a breakup.. or chasing someone to get back together... sorry folks, the same issues are gonna be there.

This "closure" What's that about? No such thing... So what? It's over.. there is your closure.

Move on... where you found one guy/gal, there will always be more...

[Asker]

I know this, but what i need to know is why this?

[simpliiegeekiie]

I think you are overthinking the situation

[Asker]

I would say that, if my ex would have only requested him once. but 5 times is too much. why so much insistency?

My friend usually posts stuff with me (pics, videos, etc)

[simpliiegeekiie]

Maybe he still like you I don't know what to tell you your friend should ask your ex why

[Asker]

Who knows, so weird. He does that. Then his new girlfriend blocks me outof nowhere on insta...

[simpliiegeekiie]

Ignore him you are only hurting yourself sometimes people do dumb things because they are bored your mind is your biggest enemy so chill and stop thinking about it hun

[Asker]

You see, the thing is i am not bothered. Just curious. Because i've already encountered this with them. Many people close to me or friends have given their input. For example: my friend and other people said that the fact that my ex's new girlfriend blocked me without even personally knowing me, shows that she feels threatened by me... Especially since she does it off and on. ANd everytime i used to post a pic she would post a pic few minutes after.

[simpliiegeekiie]

She's allowed to feel insecure

[Asker]

But why would she feel insecure, when she has him? you get me?

someone told me if she is feeling insecure, my ex must be giving her a reason to feel that way. She knows within something and doesn't want to accept it

[simpliiegeekiie]

Exactly

[Asker]

Isn't that bad though, shows the relationships isn't as stable? My thoughts would be that the fact that she had sex with him so fast and early on would make him love her vs not getting sex from me and still pinning

[simpliiegeekiie]

Having sex with someone doesn't always mean something hun

[Asker]

Even if they've been together for 11 months?

[simpliiegeekiie]

Yes my lady

[Asker]

hmmm that's interesting... In my mind, having sex and being together for long might mean that he loves her. But i guess, I got it all wrong

[simpliiegeekiie]

Dont worry about it focus on other things let them be you deserve better :)

[Asker]

Thank you :)