That's not easily answered. Most women are very calculating. I would say she doesn't plan but you'll be on thin ice with her and can be for a while. And then if she talks to the wrong guy. That ice breaks with you at that instance.🤣
So is that really her planning? Or is that her being unhappy for a while and her all of a sudden spotting a greener pasture? To me it's the latter.
I think and speaking extremely generally that often women have an exit plan , where many men do not , so their planning is more thought out than that of males.
I think the guys plan the break up first because they find more reasons to break up. They are pickier. The guys back in my day broke up first. Maybe the wheels have turned 🤷🏼♀️
That's all women are, a double standard. They don't want you to share your emotions or be a stay-at-home dad or any of that crap. They just want something to complain about.
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I was the one to break up with all of my ex's and yes in my mind I knew that It wasn't going to last a lot longer I would start changing how I would act towards them not seeing them as much etc and a few weeks later I would break up with them.
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This is more of what I have observed. During his "fall out period" has any of your exes tried to rekindle anything? That is they sensed something is up and tried to make it up to you?
This is depressing. I feel that women at this point will now "test" guys more and pay attention to his shortcomings so they feel better about break up. Also some women assume the guy already knows what's up (most don't).
I do assume they realise and see I coming also, the main reason I don't do it straight away is because I like to make sure that I won't regret my decision. But most of them were really clingy so it had nothing to do with him not paying me too much attention
they don’t plan it. they just start getting icks and turn offs sooner and they try to make it up and they insist for some times but then they break up.
I broke up with a long term girlfriend and it took me months to make the decision to finally end it. I think it depends on the individuals and the circumstances.
i thought this is a gut thing... as for me absolutely noy
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Absolutely not. Men like to have three or four other options already lined up before they break up with somebody. Because they have to jump from one p*ssy to the next without taking a break.
Men do this too. I've seen it happen countless times. It's usually because the person hasn't worked up the courage to break it off yet. Sometimes that takes some time.
Deciding to end a marriage is not a light ordeal. Of course she would give it some thought. While she was considering the breakup of course his quirks would annoy her even more. Because she's thinking about why she wants to end things so she's noticing them more and more until they become all she sees. And as far as finding herself a fuck buddy that is probably just how she is dealing with it. It doesn't mean she had him lined up before.
She didn't have him "lines up" but she knew this other guy for a long time. Her ex figured out it was him.
Totally not judging her. Like I said I love her as a friend and I'm glad she's happy. But I'm just talking about female behavior in general. This has been done to me too.
Oh and I guess the 'men do this too' comment offended some people? Get over it you guys. You can't constantly be saying "Women do this blah blah blah" when guys do it as well. Maybe YOU wouldn't do it, but that doesn't mean you speak for every single dude out there. We all have experiences too ya know!
Literally everything I've heard guys complain about with women I've either had done to me or seen it done to someone. But of course you don't date men so you wouldn't know that. You just think about how you are. Well it's easy to be biased when you only see one side. I'm not like a lot of women yet I would never agree or deny it when someone points out their negative behavior.
Every single guy that has broken up with me has done this. And I've heard about it from countless other chicks. My friend's boyfriend moved into a place with her and lived with her for a year then when he broke it off he said he had been thinking about it for a while and never really wanted to live with her. Pretty much everyone I've ever known has had this happen to them. It's quite common for BOTH genders.
Because I am a man and I know what it's like to want peace, tranquility and consistency with someone. Women want this too but many (if not most) will subconsciously "test" men to keep him "on center". If he fails too many "tests" women will then put him in a dump category and strategize on how to move forward with it.
I'm not necessarily blaming the entire gender on this. But I'm more pissed of on how our modern feministic society enables and justifies women for doing this as if she is "strong". The women will get much more support and respect for doing this than the man. Sometimes it's the right thing to do but other times it's not.
Lol. I could tell you stories about all the testing I've been put through by guys. Like really. You may want peace and tranquillity but it isn't just because you are a man. It's your personality. Same thing with testing. Not everyone tests.
I don't test. I observe behaviour through every day normal life. I don't instigate. I let things happen naturally. If the behaviour is inappropriate or contrasts too much with what I prefer then I move on.
from my own observations. Corey Wayne also had a really good book about this. Women do this to make to test if a guy is in his "masculine". The less interested they are in the guy the more they do it.
Corey Wayne? The guy with the dating videos on YouTube? What exactly are his credentials? Did he explain that most often when women test to see if a man is a strong and suitable partner? Not just for the 'hell of it'? And that unless she is really insecure those tests won't last forever.
I'm not taking everything he says as if it's written in stone. But the guy definitely knows more about women then I do. He never said women test for the "hell of it" but they do test for a "suitable" partner.
That's fair but some women go way WAY too far with this. Our feministic society isn't helping either. How many dating articles out there do you see that are titled something along the lines "5 reasons you should end the relationship" that are written for women? It's out there for guys too but the majority of the time I see dating advice books/articles written by women FOR women that boils down to saying "follow your emotions no matter what"
Women are generally more in tuned with their emotions then men. So while we can definitely overreact and be insecure a lot of the time if we REALLY feel something is off we are right. Not saying one should rely on emotions only but emotions are often the starting point of realizing a problem. After that it's important to weigh all the other methods of figuring it out. And once you've tried them if it still isn't going to work out then move on. I've never broken up with someone because I simply 'felt' bad. I look at it through all angles and try to fix things. If it can't be fixed then I call it quits.
I don't get why you guys are so offended by this lol. All I said was "Men do this too". I never said women are perfect little angels... But guess what? Neither gender is perfect. So grow the fuck up.
funny how the second article brought up "addictions" are a reason to leave. My 2nd to last ex didn't leave because of addictions (I do have some minor ones). However I found out through a friend she broke with the last guy she was seeing because he is an alcoholic, but he is seeking treatment. However she is also supporting him through this process where I was treated less than human after we split. I had something horrifying happen 3 weeks after the break up and when I talked to her about it she literally told me "tough luck... you're an ex". Basically her mental defense strategy to get over me was to focus on my quirks, treat me like pond scum. That way she had less guilt and regrets.
My friend who got in a divorce is literally doing the same thing. Her ex didn't do anything fundamentally wrong, but she kept talking about his aloofness, quirks and shortcomings in a effort to dehumanize him.
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That's not easily answered. Most women are very calculating. I would say she doesn't plan but you'll be on thin ice with her and can be for a while. And then if she talks to the wrong guy. That ice breaks with you at that instance.🤣
So is that really her planning? Or is that her being unhappy for a while and her all of a sudden spotting a greener pasture? To me it's the latter.
I think and speaking extremely generally that often women have an exit plan , where many men do not , so their planning is more thought out than that of males.
I think the guys plan the break up first because they find more reasons to break up. They are pickier. The guys back in my day broke up first. Maybe the wheels have turned 🤷🏼♀️
That's all women are, a double standard. They don't want you to share your emotions or be a stay-at-home dad or any of that crap. They just want something to complain about.
I was the one to break up with all of my ex's and yes in my mind I knew that It wasn't going to last a lot longer I would start changing how I would act towards them not seeing them as much etc and a few weeks later I would break up with them.
This is more of what I have observed. During his "fall out period" has any of your exes tried to rekindle anything? That is they sensed something is up and tried to make it up to you?
Yes they would ask me why I have been different. Yes they would try to change but would go back to the same thing
This is depressing. I feel that women at this point will now "test" guys more and pay attention to his shortcomings so they feel better about break up. Also some women assume the guy already knows what's up (most don't).
I do assume they realise and see I coming also, the main reason I don't do it straight away is because I like to make sure that I won't regret my decision. But most of them were really clingy so it had nothing to do with him not paying me too much attention
they don’t plan it. they just start getting icks and turn offs sooner and they try to make it up and they insist for some times but then they break up.
I broke up with a long term girlfriend and it took me months to make the decision to finally end it. I think it depends on the individuals and the circumstances.
No, I left a lot of men but I never had a back up plan and I needed months or even years to start dating another guy.
I thought it was the opposite gender lol. But I doubt it. I see it more as an individual person issue.
I've never planned such things. Some of the women I know also didn't plan. More reacted to the current events.
Oh ya we plan and know things way before men
At least you are honest
planning is thoughts so we cannot know thoughts
oh, women plan so much more in advance when it comes to relationships. it's not just breakups :)
Just my personal experience, but I've never worked a divorce where the guy waited till they were married ten years so he could get open-ended alimony.
i thought this is a gut thing... as for me absolutely noy
Absolutely not. Men like to have three or four other options already lined up before they break up with somebody. Because they have to jump from one p*ssy to the next without taking a break.
I know a lot of guys who are not like that including myself.
Bitches be crazy eh? Plenty on this in the manosphere. The term is: hypergamy
I don't know if women plan longer than guys but-
women do tend to plan ways ahead thinking of possibility and responsibility.
I would say that’s true because since 80% of women filed for divorce, you know they’ve been planning that way in advance
Men do this too. I've seen it happen countless times. It's usually because the person hasn't worked up the courage to break it off yet. Sometimes that takes some time.
Deciding to end a marriage is not a light ordeal. Of course she would give it some thought. While she was considering the breakup of course his quirks would annoy her even more. Because she's thinking about why she wants to end things so she's noticing them more and more until they become all she sees. And as far as finding herself a fuck buddy that is probably just how she is dealing with it. It doesn't mean she had him lined up before.
She didn't have him "lines up" but she knew this other guy for a long time. Her ex figured out it was him.
Totally not judging her. Like I said I love her as a friend and I'm glad she's happy. But I'm just talking about female behavior in general. This has been done to me too.
This is fairly common thing for a lot of people.
Oh and I guess the 'men do this too' comment offended some people? Get over it you guys. You can't constantly be saying "Women do this blah blah blah" when guys do it as well. Maybe YOU wouldn't do it, but that doesn't mean you speak for every single dude out there. We all have experiences too ya know!
Literally everything I've heard guys complain about with women I've either had done to me or seen it done to someone. But of course you don't date men so you wouldn't know that. You just think about how you are. Well it's easy to be biased when you only see one side. I'm not like a lot of women yet I would never agree or deny it when someone points out their negative behavior.
*ARGUE not agree
Men do this too but not even NEARLY to the extent women do
How would you know? You don't date men.
Every single guy that has broken up with me has done this. And I've heard about it from countless other chicks. My friend's boyfriend moved into a place with her and lived with her for a year then when he broke it off he said he had been thinking about it for a while and never really wanted to live with her. Pretty much everyone I've ever known has had this happen to them. It's quite common for BOTH genders.
Because I am a man and I know what it's like to want peace, tranquility and consistency with someone. Women want this too but many (if not most) will subconsciously "test" men to keep him "on center". If he fails too many "tests" women will then put him in a dump category and strategize on how to move forward with it.
I'm not necessarily blaming the entire gender on this. But I'm more pissed of on how our modern feministic society enables and justifies women for doing this as if she is "strong". The women will get much more support and respect for doing this than the man. Sometimes it's the right thing to do but other times it's not.
Seriously if you guys are so damn offended at me pointing out this goes BOTH WAYS then you are fucked up in the head and you need counselling.
Lol. I could tell you stories about all the testing I've been put through by guys. Like really. You may want peace and tranquillity but it isn't just because you are a man. It's your personality. Same thing with testing. Not everyone tests.
I never disagreed it goes both ways. But woman get more justification for doing the "testing" then men.
I don't test. I observe behaviour through every day normal life. I don't instigate. I let things happen naturally. If the behaviour is inappropriate or contrasts too much with what I prefer then I move on.
Well if that's true then great. Remember I said women "subconsciously" test. Most don't even realize they are doing it.
Where did you hear that?
from my own observations. Corey Wayne also had a really good book about this. Women do this to make to test if a guy is in his "masculine". The less interested they are in the guy the more they do it.
Corey Wayne? The guy with the dating videos on YouTube? What exactly are his credentials? Did he explain that most often when women test to see if a man is a strong and suitable partner? Not just for the 'hell of it'? And that unless she is really insecure those tests won't last forever.
Also not everything a woman does or says is a test.
I'm not taking everything he says as if it's written in stone. But the guy definitely knows more about women then I do. He never said women test for the "hell of it" but they do test for a "suitable" partner.
That's fair but some women go way WAY too far with this. Our feministic society isn't helping either. How many dating articles out there do you see that are titled something along the lines "5 reasons you should end the relationship" that are written for women? It's out there for guys too but the majority of the time I see dating advice books/articles written by women FOR women that boils down to saying "follow your emotions no matter what"
Women are generally more in tuned with their emotions then men. So while we can definitely overreact and be insecure a lot of the time if we REALLY feel something is off we are right. Not saying one should rely on emotions only but emotions are often the starting point of realizing a problem. After that it's important to weigh all the other methods of figuring it out. And once you've tried them if it still isn't going to work out then move on. I've never broken up with someone because I simply 'felt' bad. I look at it through all angles and try to fix things. If it can't be fixed then I call it quits.
Here are some articles on reasons to leave a relationship:
love.allwomenstalk.com/.../7?lastslide
www.innerbonding.com/.../...your-relationship.html
They seem to be pretty solid. Not much about leaving just because you feel like it.
I don't get why you guys are so offended by this lol. All I said was "Men do this too". I never said women are perfect little angels... But guess what? Neither gender is perfect. So grow the fuck up.
funny how the second article brought up "addictions" are a reason to leave. My 2nd to last ex didn't leave because of addictions (I do have some minor ones). However I found out through a friend she broke with the last guy she was seeing because he is an alcoholic, but he is seeking treatment. However she is also supporting him through this process where I was treated less than human after we split. I had something horrifying happen 3 weeks after the break up and when I talked to her about it she literally told me "tough luck... you're an ex". Basically her mental defense strategy to get over me was to focus on my quirks, treat me like pond scum. That way she had less guilt and regrets.
My friend who got in a divorce is literally doing the same thing. Her ex didn't do anything fundamentally wrong, but she kept talking about his aloofness, quirks and shortcomings in a effort to dehumanize him.
Well I don't know what addictions you have and how your relationship went to it's hard to make any sort of judgement on why she did that.
What exactly is fundamentally wrong? He didn't cheat on her? Beat her up? Gamble all their money away on sloth fights?
Look at them go!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yhg64DWEfI