If he deletes all of his messages regularly then that not a big deal. Some people hate the clutter in their inbox. Now if it is convos with a specific person and no one else then yeah I would say that's a red flag. If his behaviour with that one person doesn't match his behaviour with the others then obviously there's something going on, whether it be cheating or him complaining to her or just anything he wouldn't want you knowing. Mention it to him and ask why he deletes them? People want to talk about how you need to just have more trust, but if he is giving you reasons not to trust him then that's understandable. Plus people will say you're over thinking and just need to trust him, but on the other side of the coin if he was cheating or hiding things from you and you just blindly trusted him they would all say you were an idiot for that too so don't listen to them.
I like to delete my text messages, phone call history, and pretty much anything else. For me though it's because I have OCD and it makes me feel better.
For the guy your with this does not sound like what he is doing for he keeps your messages, if he was doing like myself he would delete everything. I think asking him might help, don't come at him like you think he is cheating. Maybe just say like you are curious as to why he deletes only her messages or something. If you don't come off as though you think he is cheating you will either get the truth or you will probably be able to tell if is is a lie. For he will most likely try to co. e up with a story rather than say 'why, don't you trust me?'
Obviously he is hiding something if he's continuously texting her and deleting the text messages. Do you have an iPad or mac? Could enable the texts to go through that- they don't delete on them even if you delete from your phone, you have to manually delete them on the other devices. What an ass.
I would think so, considering it's only when he exchanges messages with this woman. If he didn't care if you saw them, why would he delete them? He's definitely doing something that he doesn't want you to know about. I would be upfront and tell him to come clean. If he has nothing to hide, he'll probably not mind you check with the phone company about these texts.
Nah, he's probably discussing a surprise party for'ya.
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u Definite red flag!!! You need to discuss this with him.
Few guys like it clean , no unnecessary mails texts or call details
Even single people do it too..
But in your case
If he don't have a lock and deleting texts
Something is definitely cooking
Ur it may be him personal way of preventing you from suspecting him
But yes...
You better keep eyes open
And talk him into it indirectly...
Does it even matter? If you cannot find it in yourself to trust him you have a serious problem already. You are part of the problem with your stalker attitude, do not check his phone.
It can be completely innocent flirting, knowing you would overreact he deleted the messages. Yet still he might cheat on you, but like I said does it even matter if you can only live with distrust? I say dump him or learn to trust him.
It seems shady. You should just outright talk to him, and ask if you can call the person on the other side of the number, right there and then. If he has nothing to hide, he'll let you. But don't let him get away or text anything to the other person first.
Red flag if he feels its not innocent enough to be left on his phone, marriage seems like a joke now days lol
Well I will not just lie and show sympathy to you but you really need to work on trust issues and may be those were important messages but knowing,
How you will think about it?
he just spares him the trouble and simply del them
My ex wife did this as well. She was having an affair. Tread carefully!!
Yeah , if i had a girlfriend or wife did that to me i would think it was a red flag and would wonder why she be doing that I think he owes you a reason on why he does that with his text messages or deletes phone numbers.
If it seems to be only a certain one then yes.
You should consider marrying or dating guys that are loyal if you don't like getting cheated on, in the future.
Yes that is a red flag. He's hiding something because if it was nothing, he wouldn't be afraid of you seeing it.
Or he is just clearing space on his phone and knows there is nothing important in those conversations.
red flag for sure. i think u need to have a calm open conversation with him again and see where it goes. ask him if it would bother him if you did the same.
Check his call log on your phone bill. You can see if he's deleting all messages or just the one person.
Definitely a red flag when you have to worry and question if you should be concerned or not :/
Or maybe he is just a normal human being who deletes all messages because they don't like to have clutter on their phone?
The only reason I'm suspicious of his is because it happened to my friend... and yes she found out that he did have something worth hiding.
Maybe he knows your looyat his shit guys say weird things we look up weird things maybe don't be so insecure
I dont think there should be secrets between married people. Red flag to me. But nevertheless I wish you the best ❤️
No i delete grpup messages it too much on my phone after while
Not a red flag, he probably isn't cheating... Could just be dealing in human trafficking. No bigge.
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