Are guys hurt after a break up?

Because I feel like most guys don't really care or don't seem to be hurt about it.. what are the signs a guy is hurt but hides it? Is avoiding eye contact and any social contacy mean that a guy is hurt?


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  • TL;DR Boys hurt too, maybe more in some ways.

    They've not as emotionally reactive, but they're just as emotionally sensitive. It's literally a brain structure thing, masculine brain structures cause the tendency for emotion to be delayed. Emotions develop over longer periods for guys, it's just a different way to feel. It's not as pronounced in the present so it doesn't become as emotional a moment, but you live in that emotional state at half strength for longer so it impacts you differently. Emotions from everything going on in life can overlap and blend with each other and with the mundane existence of a guy's life.

    We see this delayed & drawn out way of experience in breakups, not just right after like you're talking about, but in the long-term. Women average 2 months to *completely* get over someone. Men average 2 years and that's one of the lower estimates I've seen. It isn't seen on the surface by you but on the inside it's impactful and enduring. Although feelings of loss or anger toward an ex may be present as they move into new relationships those emotions are compartmentalized and are processed over time. It's not to say they're not ready for new relationships, it just means that experiences becomes a are of who a guy is in a different way and though a different method that girls.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • They do. They just have an amazing ability to act like they don't by not expressing any emotion, but deep inside they suffer.

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What Guys Said 25

  • For me yes its put me in a state of depression that i almost didn't spring back from.. But im emotional also most times woman break up with me and i can't handle it but i can't bring myself to do the break up bc im to committed and hope that we can work whatever out

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  • eye contact and no contact can be signs, yes, but yeah guys do hurt after a breakup, not straight away, but because we dont talk about it, we sorta build up the breakup in our heads, and it kinda is there for awhile.

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  • a lot of us are better at hiding it but yeah it definitely stings its a combination of losing a close friend and what basically amounts to a long time of work and dedication all go away in an instant it's demoralizing and you lose the will to even care it goes away eventually but you can never get back the lost time and you never feel the same in your heart so the only way to cope is to quit caring

    Least that's how I always feel

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  • More Then your known, only difference is being a men your aren't allowed to show it

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  • Yes they are

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  • I deal with it in ways that don't involve crying and thinking about it. I find things to do to pass the time.

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  • Yes guys are hurt, depends on how much time he invested on the girl and how much he cares about, first if he shows a lot of emotions after breaking up like anger, sadness means he cares, or if he smiles at the person if there's no wrinkles around the eyes or it looks plain and dead, means he cares a lot. And he is hurt, might say to his friends that meh i dont care about that girl but constantly brings her up.

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    • He avoided everything and tried to not look at me at all

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    • Maybe he blocked you because he was tempted to contact you again or looking at your photos status's and things

    • Well I don't know about that he said that he hates me

  • Personally: yes, always.

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  • Of course we are

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  • We may not show it, but we hurt immensely.

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  • Very mush so
    We just don't show much emotion or at least I don't because I don't want others to have to deal with me

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  • what the fu... of course guys are hurt after breakups were just taught from a young age that emotions are not to be shown so we don't

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  • I have yet go feel hurt after a breakup

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  • Yes oh god yes does it hurt. Im getting through a break up right now and it is hard as hell.

    Different guys hide things in different ways

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  • Yeah we hurt, especially if we really cared for the girl.

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    • Does no contact after a break up mean he cared?

    • Yes it could very well mean that. Whatever happened to cause the break-up or how the break-up actually occurred could result in no contact. sometimes a day, sometimes a long time.

  • Yes. I think men hurt more than women usually.

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  • Goes both ways

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  • Yes. A lot some guys hurt so they start drinking

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  • Yes it Hurt's more.. If they love so much with affection... itit hurt much more..

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  • I would think that if any guy cared, he would be hurt. But everyone deals with it differently.

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  • Depends on the girl and how much time is invested

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  • yeah ,,, we got heart and also. soul too ! dont you think?

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  • I personally feel like something inside me died when the girl i dated told me she wants to break up

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  • Definitely.

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  • It depends if refs cared about the relationship, if they did, then yes

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What Girls Said 2

  • I belive so like us

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  • no they are unemotional robots.

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