Is getting shredded a good way to get over a breakup?

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I'm having trouble getting over a girl who I was with for about 6 months. I lift weights but had been slacking a little while I was with her. Would it be a good idea to get into the gym again. My goal is something like the physique Brad Pitt had in Troy or that of Chris Hemsworth. Half to spite her, half to prove to myself I can get that shredded.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Of course. Focus on making a ton of money too. This way you'll gain the confidence you need and women desire. Before long they'll be throwing themselves at you.
And never forget, YOU ARE THE PRIZE! So start acting like it.
Women will come and go, but a real MAN is a prize to behold. NEVER, EVER, put a woman on a pedestal. Ever. She'll never respect you if you do.

Woman's mind runs on emotion and feelings - and they are subject to change at any moment. They can love you one minute and bail or cheat the next. And you'll hear the famous battle-cry, "But I wasn't hhhhaaaappppyyyy.' And all her friends and relatives will tell her 'You DESERVE to be hhhhaaaappppyyyy.' She doesn't deserve jackshit. She gets what she earns, what she works for, what she invests in - just like every body else.

Benedek38 · Accepted Answer

Sure thing mate. I recomment one of these:  But on a serious note - only as long as you don't get lost in it. Use it to become a better version of yourself, not to hide away from the world.

Glue-Sniffer · Accepted Answer

Well... I'd say going to the gym and working out, modifying your diet and working toward a healthier you is always a good thing and a good start. It will distract you from the break up but it will also boost your self confidence and your looks.
Just don't get carried away with weight lifting. Gigantic muscles just look ugly and disturbing. Moderation is the key.
Just keep in mind that you will need months to see real results. It requires commitment and a lot of planning. You'll see results in about 6 months to a year so don't get discouraged after 6 weeks or 2 months... It takes time.
Good luck

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

Yea give a chance if that’s something that’ll take your mind off the negativity in the mean time then why not go for it. Take it easy on yourself but always remember your priorities whether you’re in or out of a relationship because once that disappears all you have is yourself and to built up from ground to top will be 10x more of the work.

szewczykkit · Answer

It's what I did. While your body is transforming, you'll slowly realize how flawed the relationship was and your feelings will go from mildly painful to just a strong memory within a matter of weeks or months.

The female attention does somewhat help with moving on. Something I've newly discovered is that the best way to get over someone is to feel ready to get into the dating game as soon as your heart allows.

As shallow as it sounds, it does replace the feelings you had with her and if she sees the improvement you're making and the attention you're getting. All the better for your own validation's sake.

Her insecurity is fuel for moving on. But if that's not the case. Doesn't matter anyway, it's your journey.

JennyDarling · Answer

It worked for my boyfriend. After his ex cheated on him, he went to the gym regularly and started eating really well. At first it was just a way for him to make her jealous (which worked, as she later admitted) but it was also a good way for him to work out a lot of the stress and emotion he had. After the resentment for his ex faded, it still came in useful for when he wanted a rebound chick, and even for attracting girl after that phase was over, me being one of them and us having been dating now for around a year and three months. If nothing else, you'll likely find it a good outlet for emotion, and a nice way to pass time getting active and not moping around :)

doodleheads · Answer

planning to get the shredded body is great and all. but doing it to spite her after a break up, then no. because fitness should be done for personal reasons, health benefits, and not something to turn to after a break up. to move on, you need to let go. i've been there, too. i know it's hard to just drop whatever happened that caused the break up, but you have to do it. forgive and forget, forgive her and forget about her is the best option. the more you try to spite her, get revenge, and etc. the more you'll think about her and cling to those angry/hateful feelings and you're not really going to move on.

rjroy3 · Answer

It all depends on the place it's coming from. Getting in shape is good for you and will help for a multitude of reasons, but if in your head you are only getting ripped because of your ex then it won't help you get over the breakup. But if you're doing it to feel better about yourself and get back out there, then yes it can help.

It's more about taking control of what you can control, making the most of it and getting that win. As long as that's the core of your reason, then yes it will absolutely be a good thing for you. I know a lot of guys that hit the gym solely because of their breakup and they don't last. It has to be for you.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Yeah, absolutely, and don't let anybody tell you different. People will say, "oh, it should be for yourself, not because of another person, blah blah blah," that's crapola. Other people can be the BEST motivators.

When your muscles are tired and you feel like you can't do one more rep, just think of that bitch and crank out 2-3 more, you'll see. Look in the mirror and say, "she wants me to quit. She wants me to give up. She wants me to fail." and then get back on that fucking stair-climber or whatever. Do another HOUR more than you thought you could.

YourFutureEx · Answer

It's not a good way, it's the BEST way.
●You'll become more and more powerful
●You'll be disciplined and focused
●You'll be healthier
●You'll get your identity and passion back
●You'll look way better
●You'll bang hotter chicks
●You'll live longer
Log out and get in the gym ASAP!

NineBreaker · Answer

Yes, it definitely helps. It's not the only way, and it's not particularly "getting shredded". It's actually whatever you do that is constructive, and you like to do, whether it's exercise to be and stay healthy, or read books to increase your knowledge.

lomimore · Answer

I hate the fact that she somehow tricked you into giving up the thinh you like but yeah go ahead get shreaded and get that body.
Am not a body builder but i lift weight and want to build muscle and i have goals if i was with a guy who doesn't like that I'd be like FUCK OFF life is toi short not to do what you want deeply even if its in the name of love

reixun · Answer

It’s ONE way to deal with a breakup. Dealing with heartache comes in many flavors with varying levels of healthiness. I think working out a ton is one of the more emotionally healthy options... as opposed to letting yourself wallow in sadness and stalk their social media all day long

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

Ever since I was a kid, I had been building my body and exercising and I became a total fitness freak and I realized later that it was just way for me to deal with my depression... I still work out and it does help with keeping my head clear for that time...

WysteriaRose · Answer

If you enjoy bodybuilding and as long as you don't take any enhancement drugs, then sure. Why not? That woman sounds controlling anyway, since she didn't want you to do something that you loved.

As long as one's significant other isn't doing something completely unhealthy, why criticize?

LittleRedKat · Answer

I don't think it's necessarily a way to get over a breakup. But it will definitely help you emotionally, mentally, and physically. Working out makes you happier and is good for you not just physically. So it definitely can help with not being sad.

Myk13 · Answer

I want to say no. Only because I don’t think that a breakup is a good enough reason to dedicate that much time and energy to. It may help you to push yourself a little more on some days. You should be “getting shredded” because you want to. And it can’t hurt getting a little more attention when you’re ripped.

valualty · Answer

It's okay as long as you do it for yourself. But to try and spite her, i would say not worth it, just find to way to move on. Fuck trying to prove anything anyone, cos that's how you self destruct. And aim for better than what you achived while you were with her. Not just muscles. Money, better lifestyle, better friends.
I been there done that. Trophies and meddles laying around the house. But a lonely dark place bodybuilding was. There is more to life.

CaliforniaSun22 · Answer

Working out makes you happy- studies have proven. That driving factor of bettering yourself will help you set a goal and keep your mind off of her. It will help you to be in a different head space and have confidence.

EvilAngel114 · Answer

You should do it for yourself. Who cares about her. She’s gone and out of the picture. Don’t be a fool trying to do anything to get her attention. That’s part of the reason why you can’t get over her.

Dause · Answer

I mean, just look at the poll results: Unanimous. Improving on yourself is the best way to get over a break up. Plus, when you are ready for something new and totally good to move on, it'll help a lot with finding the right sort of girl to be with

Lissy6789 · Answer

I would focus on doing it more for yourself than her, what you want to do is move on and not focus on doing it for her. It's a great way to distract yourself and get yourself healthy but I would alter your motivation

Rakel79 · Answer

That's a good question.. My son 17 is going through a break up or complications w girlfriend so I recommended he focus on himself a little.. He put off a few things for the girlfriend. so I told him to hit gym, go to the beach with his cousins. Is that ok advice?

Leimarie · Answer

If it helps to keep your mind off of your ex or makes you feel better about yourself in any way, then go for it. Don’t try to work out just out of spite, you need to release any anger or resentment towards the ex and move forward with your life.

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