Have you dumped someone cause you think the grass is greener on the other side, then realized that it was not?

[krisnic28]

Did you try to get him/her back? And did your SO accept you back?

[Anonymous]

I do believe this is more common for women to do to men, some guys get tempted too.

One shitty irony of being in a relationship as a guy is all of the sudden you appear more attractive to other women. You notice girls being more friendly with you (and some hinting at more than that). You forget how difficult it was when you were single. You get tempted.

But that was never the reason I’ve broken up with a girlfriend. I did break up with my last girlfriend because I felt almost zero physical attraction towards her. I tried to fight it myself. I gave up porn for over a month. I got off SSRIs. But it didn’t help. I just didn’t want to sleep with her anymore. That’s not fair to her or me. It’s not something I can force myself into changing either.

But I have never left a girl for someone else. And if a girl left a guy for me I would trust her much less.

After a break up you need to pick up my pieces and reorganize your mind. Swinging in relationships like a monkey swings from trees is classless.

[Dali-chan]

More common for women to do so? Lmaoooo. That’s why you see many single mothers who get dumped by their baby fathers for a younger girl!

[krisnic28]

I think men do it more than women. That's why if you search at youtube, most videos about getting their ex back, or how to move on from a break up caters to women.

[Opinion Owner]

No break ups hurt men much more than society believes. We are not allowed to show our emotions about it. We also have fewer close friends as we age because we are expected to be independent.

I’ve have one ex from 5 years ago I would give anything to just sit down and have 20 mins of chat so I can get closure on something she did to me. When it happened I sunk into a very deep depression, lost 13lbs, couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep and almost got fired from my job. Nobody outright mocked me but I was definitely looked down up for not looking like a man about it.

Women get to much more leeway to show their emotions on their sleeves after a break up and not lose face. They get to process it.

[krisnic28]

Fair enough

[holograph]

I haven't done that, and for me there are no take backs. A relationship either works out or it does not. If you're in a relationship with me but your mind is constantly questioning whether I'm even good enough for you, then you (hypothetically!) are a bitch, and you should speak your mind so we can be done with each other.

[holograph]

To be more clear, there are no take backs for literally any reason. You say it's over? Well, it's over for real. Oh, you were just joking? I'm not.

You can take life "too seriously" in many cases. But breakups truly are serious. And treating them as if they are just a normal mood swing is insulting to me, and to the very idea of what relationships are.

[whatever6846]

Harsh reaction which is true.

[jennifer_bloom]

I have never dumped somebody over another prospect but I've been attracted to people who were interested in me while dating people - I told them I was taken and was hated for leading the guy on but it wasn't my plan to lead him on - I just did not detect his interest in me early enough to shut down his pursuit before it got more intense since I tend to underestimate a guy's interest in me. The other guy - he had some very good qualities but did some things that made me very angry so I don't know whether he was a good or bad choice but I am not going to pursue anything with him - even though I'm single now.

[jillybeanns]

I almost done this before. I cheated on my boyfriend with a guy who I met online we had amazing mind blowing sex for three months straight... and during this time I was considering breaking up with him for the other guy. Well come to find out he accepted a job offer in another state and said he would be gone for a few months. Once he left I basically blocked his number because I felt betrayed in some way since he and I did grow close. My boyfriend still does not know about it until this day... and I still miss and thinking about the hot sex I had with the other guy:(

[jillybeanns]

I’m okay with that.

[jillybeanns]

Hmm and let me thing, you two are just 10000% perfect and you never do any wrong. You guys should hold hands on your way to heaven together lmfao stfu I’ll do what I want 🥰🥰🥰😊

[jillybeanns]

Hope you don’t lose any sleep tonight but that wasn’t the first time :)

[krisnic28]

I think you should really break up with your boyfriend. Up til now you're still thinking about sex with someone else. He deserves better.

[jillybeanns]

I dozed off reading your comment. Come again?

[David_Kek]

Seriously, leave your guy.
But not because "it's the right thing to do", but because you are going to have a miserable life if you do.
One woman I dated, with her husband sleeping in the spare room whenever I came over, was probably one of the most miserable women I've ever known. As a woman, to settle down with a guy you neither look up to or respect, is complete long term misery.
Your 24 years old, you've still got some tread left on the tires. Use the time you've got left to dump this guy and find one you can look up to, or you won't have a future.

[jillybeanns]

I’m far from miserable lol. This is just his karma :)

[David_Kek]

give it 10 years

[Anonymous]

I haven't. But I know a few people who have, but their partner wasn't fool enough to take them back

Getting back with a partner who left you for someone else would cause too much instability within the relationship.. if they got back together. Their partner would never truly feel emotionally safe in the relationship. Emotional stability in a relationship is paramount. That would cause long-term stress and anxiety for a person

[idkhfjdkdkskkd]

i haven’t personally,,, but one of my best pals have.
they have anxiety and thought that it would be better if they felt with it on their own so they broke up with their boyfriend of two years. she realized soon after that it wasn’t better and the two of them just kinda drifted back to dating as they had stayed best friends after the break up

[Bloody_Claw]

It happened to me that women did reject/left me because I either wasn't what they wanted in that moment or who knows but then came back sometimes even months after and asked or begged for a second chance.
And to be fair even if I felt sorry for some I don't give second chances out of principal because sorry I value myself enough to not be a second choice.

[Apope16]

No. But if it truly was real love and I knew 100% they liked me? I would. Its tough because it has consequences. I am in love with a girl right now and broke up with someone with the hope that wed end up together. But it was really because liking someone else is an easy way to make an excuse to breakup with someone. I had other reasons to dump her.

[Apope16]

Think about those words. Break... up... why is it called that? break to date up..

[krisnic28]

How is it easier to break up with someone by saying you now like someone else and is choosing that person instead? Won't it be less harsh for your SO if you just say you don't love her anymore?

[Apope16]

Of course its easier. But honesty will at least bring understanding and healing more than a lie. Id rather hear the bitter truth than see an ex with a new person a week later.

[Finchie40]

No, but my ex did and then she tried getting me back , she stayed an ex cuz i wouldn't accept her back , if someone can betray you they will betray you again so what would be the point of giving them another chance?

[Anonymous]

I didn't, but my ex did. He was rather cruel about it, too. No, I did not accept him back.

[Anonymous]

I know it's wrong and would not act on it but I have had these thoughts, I love my boyfriend and he is great but there are some aspects in which I am not completely statisfied and he is my first so sometimes I can't help but wonder if I am settling with some things here and it may be even better with someone else.

[ask4any]

Do you know why the grass is greener on the other side? Because there's more shit over there!!

[krisnic28]

Lol. That's funny

[royboat100]

Funny, and true.

[Lightning8]

Gonna use this

[CandacePerry]

Nope my first ex boyfriend did that and I reject him when he did ask out after two. Already move on.

[feliciacasale]

That’s ridiculous and selfish. I wouldn’t go back to that person.

[maddog1213]

Can I ask you a question

[feliciacasale]

Sure?

[maddog1213]

Does penis size matter if you love a guy

[feliciacasale]

No if you love a man there’s alternatives.

[maddog1213]

What alternatives do you mean?

[feliciacasale]

I’m pretty sure there are adult stores that you and your girlfriend can visit that have plenty of toys you can mess around with. Hope that helps!

[maddog1213]

Im 7 inches length and 4.6 inches girth. Is that a good size

[winterfox10]

No, I haven't, but I know people who have. I've also made choices in love triangle situations that turned out to be the wrong choices. I never even tried to rectify the situation.

[nerms123]

Yes. Yes I have. And not only wasn’t it green but it was actually a toxic waste dump lol

[Alpha09]

Yes, and the grass was way greener. He was a cheater to so that was a motivator.

[tootoot]

Yes, worst mistake i have ever made. Still think about her from time to time. Its been 14 years! But iv moved on with it. At peace with it.

[KieranByrne]

Take back, to prove whom were right all along, or to go through the same scenario all over again?

[krisnic28]

Neither. Is it impossible for someone to realize that they made a mistake? Or by being with someone else, they finally realize the value of the one they left.

[Anonymous]

No. I generally realized I should have dumped them sooner and once outside the relationship realized I put up with being miserable too long.

[nuberu17]

I was about to divorce for the same reasons... but i decided to fight back and give it an other try...

[krisnic28]

Did it work out in the end?

[nuberu17]

Is being 4 month since i aborted that divorce... so far... so good... of course... the situational factor is diferent for each case...

[krisnic28]

Good on you for trying 👍

[crazy8000]

No.
Only morons does that self destructive behavior. It's emotional immature.

[TacosRAwesome]

Yes and the grass was definitely greener

[askuser]

This hasn’t happened to me.

[abc3643]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

No but I've had that happen to me

[Blondegypsy23]

Hell yes and it was

[COMMODOREII]

Nope thank God

[edgar11]

I gues so

[Bwyze]

No...

[bluurueh]

When is was 12