Guys say they love to be chased by girls. This doesn't mean they love the one's who chase them. They need a little 'handling'. There's a saying "a woman who can do everything, will end up doing everything". You're prepared to do all the running, so, you're doing all the running! You're obviously stronger than this man and he obviously has a lot of other priorities (his daughter being a massive one).
If you still want to pursue him you have to make him think it's his idea. You can only do this by making him work for it and tapping into his hunting instinct. Little boys will save the toys they had to work for (ie by doing chores), but the flashy gifts dropped on them at christmas, which they neither asked nor worked for, have a very limited shelf life in terms of interest. If you value this man, make him work hard so that he can treasure you. If he refuses to work hard, you should remember your own worth. I'll bet there are other guys who'd give their right arm, and one of them will be right for you! Good luck hon, let the chase begin! Just make sure he's chasing you!
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Ok, it certainly seems you were doing all the running right from the start...and he only gave his two cents when he saw you, though it is rare for him to initiate a meeting.
I might have the answer for you, and you might not like it...but remember I am not him..and I can only advise with what I read.
It may be that he thought he was ready to start something new, and then got cold feet and decided he wasn't. I mean being married and then being divorced and losing everything is complicated enough, and he has a child too... he's probably a bit uncertain and unsure about things.
It to me doesn't sound like he meant to lead you on, because he seemed genuinely interested at the start, but prehaps nervous and scared of getting hurt. Don't believe the whole thing about men being insensitive monsters, because they have feelings and there problems too.
Interesting to hear of this happening to a girl, usually it is guys I hear of.
The advice is: if he was seriously into you, he would text a lot faster than that, and ask you out more often. If he doesn't reply when you text him it means his Interest Level is low. You can't raise his IL by keeping in contact a lot, it will only push it down further. Instead you need to decrease the contact, give him a chance to miss you. If he doesn't contact you then, there is nothing you can do about it. We cannot always affect someone else's IL.
He is also a lot older and he has a kid and a divorce where the wife took all his money - such a typical fate for guys in the West. And women wonder why we hesitate to get married. Well, he has a lot to deal with, and you are probably on different levels in life. When a guy is 4-5 years older that is fine, but more than that and the difference starts to matter. I can't say for sure, of course.
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he girl you have to forget about him for several reasons:
1st: he is divorced, he has 2 kids, if he asked you to marry him, would your parents accept to marry someone with two kids? Plus, are you able to deal with two kids that are not yours? they may love you a lot, and they may not love you at all, which is a possibility to make your life a disaster!
2nd: there is lots of different in the age and he is taking you for granted! you said, if you don't tect him, he wont, he he don't see you at the Dr. clinic, he won't call you for a date! so STOP messaging him, and STOP asking him to go out, he has to do these step, not you!
3rd: it was a big mistake from your side to tell him I'm always waiting for you! what the hell is he? why would you stay at home waiting for him? don't you have friends to go out and have fun with them?
Listen, you may find me very rude, and you may hate me from what I am saying or telling you, but I want to tell you something: I was going out with a guy for 9 months, he was my Boyfriend and I was madly in love with him, if I don't call him to c him, he won't come, if I don't sms him, he barely do... do you know how we end up? he called me and said: I am sorry, my exgirlfriend called me, he said that she misses me, and she wants us to come back together, so I am really sorry, but I wan to come back to my EX! can you immagine what kid of depression I passed by? and because I don't want any girl to be lied on or be a follower in any kind of relation, listen to what I am saying! I swear to you, forgetting him is the best for you! if he want you, he will call, if he misses you, he will ask you out, HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!
good luck honey, and I am here for any help...
RegardsHe just wasn't that into you hon. Plus, you never really gave him a chance to chase you. you were too available at first so he felt like he had to do no effort because like he said he knew you would, remember? tells you right there your showing more effort than him which to some guys seem desperate and its obvious that he had a little crush on you but was never too serious about really dating you. Sometimes people give it a chance and see what happens and him spending so much times with you on that first date was him tryin to see if he was really into you and the more and more yall saw each other, he really still wasn't feeling it that much which led to him quittin the whole thing and he didn't care to let you know like most guys. They don't want to deal with the confrontation so they rather just disappear to not deal with it. Unfortunately, hon, a guy can seem like he is into you base on the date and things like that but some can lose interest for whatever the reason is or they just didn't like you as much as you thought. Its a sucky feeling I know but its the ups and downs of dating that we all have to go through. Just have to move. And Let these men chase you and show you equal effort always.
Just to let everyone one know he asked me out again last night... and I said no. IF anything he will have to do a lot of chancing in order for me to go back out with him.lol Thanks all for your CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM, not the others who are just being lonely haters that just have nothing better to do than try to bring a person down to their level. Seriously to those people Get Lives! Stop reading about mine! XoXo muah =)
Cry baby. He was just not that into you. so get over it. No wonder why your confused and used. lol. and you got a real bad attitude. Face it. he didn't really want you like he thought. he lost interest and if you still haven't heard from him or getting much from him proves me and those 2 below right. lol! So deal with it and move on.
wow, really? That's horrible. and for those who thinks he is not into her...good assumption but not always the case altho I hear what they are saying. Reality is the guy is not with you no more because he doesn't want to be for whatever reason. Sorry
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