How do you move on from a relationship with no closure? (Page 2)
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Lift your head, and be who you are. I can only think of one source if the advice to go do someone else to get over a relationship and that is someone who doesn't care about you. A relationship is far more than sex and you know this. And did you not want to have sex with person after you developed feelings for them? Lift yourself up and forget about the spinless one who couldn't end a relationship in a respectful way
First of all everything boils down to time.. I had same issue with my ex. But I got busy with what I loved doing.. (Like my passion) I put my whole life to it. Though you still get to think of your ex, but its normal.
Secondly having sex after breaking up is totally not the right path but and it will not heal you wounds rather it will give u more concern because that's not who you are. Just relax and be patient, it will all go away
I agree you should move on. But I also feel that he broke up with you for a silly reason for you but right for him. Andcrebound sex or revenge sex is common for the innocent, hoping he will find out. No one likes being dumped, and it was your first or one of your first tine being dumped
Don't beat yourself up. I had two narcs in a row and did something similar.. I never got closure from the second. She used me until I saw through her. She pretended to care for me for self gain. She cut me off immediately when I asked her if she had any feelings for me.
No closure..
Don't feel bad because of the hookup.
sex feels good. You just wanted to feel good. You're human. I did the same. I did feel quite guilty afterwards but it passed quickly.
Baby, you need therapy now. Don't wait another day cause this is gonna get worse before it gets better. I'm very sad for you and can feel your pain like it was my own. Please, for the love of God, get some professional help before it is too late.
Oh please. She Will be fine. Give it a week or two
@red324 How can you be so confident? She told you she is addicted to narcissism. That is a serious red flag. Without help she is a dead girl walking.
It's her own fault then. She fell for some guy who used her for sex and got ghosted. How can we be sure she isn't just attention whoring?
@stevemeh Really?
Yes. So why bother caring? When men fall under the same situation they get humiliated or told to get over it.
How am i an attention whore? And men are more likely to have NPD than women, by the way. I’d be careful @stevemeh, your incel is showing.
I agree. I looked up the definition of a narcissistic person a couple days ago and I know at least two guys with this. Of course they aren't being treated for it.
@stevemeh She didn't get used for sex. Used for sex would be more like they fucked for a month or so then he dumped her. Come on man. There are enough girls out there already with plenty disorders and insecurities because of guys like YOU. This girl is perfectly fine and will get over it just like everyone else does. Some people just move on at different speeds. Me for example, after a few days to a week I'm usually over it and onto the next girl. Best way to get over a girl is to find another one. It's like wrecking your car, what are you going to Do? Find another one.
@red324 no woman has ever wanted me no matter what I have done or tried. Women would just pick other guys over me and a few of them have come crawling back to me after they regretted their decisions to which I just tell them to fuck off. OP is reminds me of all these women so I have no sympathy for her.
Go ahead and call me incel cause it's one of the few insults you have. What's next? Are you gonna call me gay too?
@ the OP btw)
No? You just legit sound like an incel. I wasn’t trying to insult you. Just stating a fact.
And you legit sound like an attention whore. Just stating a fact.
Take anon off already the jig is up.
Ok, soooooo yeah... Random sex will not take the pain away for more than a few minutes/hours...
Any break up is hard and leave a lot of scars... The main thing is don't close yourself for new possibilities...
Besides it, do things that normally cheer you up... And try to keep your life "as normal" (I know it's impossible... But you can't let yourself get too down... Or will be harder to come back up)...
Also, a good way is to vent out with someone that you trust or feel comfortable with to talk about it... Have in mind that you might feel sad/cry when doing it but it's a great way to get it out...
If you don't have someone to talk about it, feel free to vent out here or in private message with me (but I highly recommend you to do with someone that you feel comfortable with and will listen to you)
It might take some time, but I hope you get better, you for sure deserve better :)
You need to stop being so extreme. Try spending time with people you care about, talk about what happened, and if you want a hookup - don't go with a complete stranger who doesn't (and shouldn't) give more than a fuck about you. Most importantly - remember that every day you waste on feeling bad when you've done nothing wrong is another victory for the narcissist.
it reminds me how I got no closure from a childhood friend, former friend, who refused to reconnect with me years later after our friendship fizzled out and his communication was absolute zero with me as to why he refused to talk to me again in the first place.
Oh surprise surprise a woman who expected prince charming from a random hookup with a bad boy narcissist.
Maybe you should just not "date" for awhile?
You do not need closure! If he's a narc he will try to bait you Into getti g you back using c link closure. It's not worth the risk
Pop the bubble it's called a love bubble you don't see nothing beyond that once you pop the bubble you should be able to get closure
You wouldn't break up, if you loved them. You didn't love them! I guarantee it
The best thing that helps, time. It just takes time. Eventually, you won't even think about it anymore
It takes time. I know that feeling went though it all an few months ago
Me as well.
Time apart. Dont talk, call, chat whatever w him^
How long did it take you to move on?
I had an crush on this guy for 5 years the longest... he hated me which it hurt a lot. with breakups it took me just about 4-6 weeks to move on.
Only time will get you over it. Finding something to do with your time will make the difference in how that time passes. Try to stay focused on anything but him.
You just have to start doing new and different things. There is something about changing up your routine that makes you forget matters of the past.
Time. Really you just need time to be alone and reflect. Spend time on yourself and allow yourself to move forward.
I personally tried to fill the gap by having hook ups, and since 1 didn't work out i just continued having more. Eventually i had forgotten about the relationship and was focused on myself and having fun.
I've been through this. It's better to take time to process the pain and heal.
Get busy with your life. You'll get over it, not now but you will one day. That's the best feeling ever!!
Don't u know it was a negative lifestyle. Go for a sport, go get sweat, do something worth!!! Lead the flow. Be strong!!!