Does looking up an ex on social media regularly mean you still have feelings? Eg weekly/fortnightly?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No - just curious

[shimmeryns]

My answer is leaning more to yes. Then he will be constantly on your mind and you may become obssess analyzing his social media from a distance. If you want to move on, detox yourself from social media for about a month or two and go out with your friends. That way you can gradually stop questioning yourself if you still have feelings for him.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not necessarily. Some do it to check in on said ex to see how they're doing, see if they are over you, or just to be nosy.

Personally I block and delete a guy after a breakup, and want nothing to do with him! But that's just me...

[Gabriel007]

No it means you might miss the feeling you had of being in a relationship, not necessarily feeling anything towards them as a person...
And depending on the time you were together being in a relationship it might just be a habit...

[Amyth20]

You don't have feelings. You just keep reminding this to yourself. Move out do something which can make you forget this and focus on anything else

[Niki777]

If they dumped you they will look up to see if you are miserable like them or not. If they didn't see any signs and they see you that's you are happy they would try to make that less because its painful for them.

[21browngirl]

I still look at my ex's facebook or whatsapp pic.. hoping he is doing shit in his life.. or going through some bad phase.. but.. feelings.. thats zero

[akihon]

So you don't have any feelings towards your ex but then what if they were going through a bad patch, are you going to say you'd feel nothing, if that's the case then why bother with checking up on him, sorry but your argument makes zero sense

[21browngirl]

@akihon cos he was an asshole. and it gives me a sadistic pleasure seeing him not doing good in life

[akihon]

Maybe he was but then getting pleasure is itself a feeling, it's quite sadistic as you said, but would you be happy to know then he were doing that to you while your going through a crappy time. It sounds to me a bit childish and let's not forget it takes two to make it work.

[21browngirl]

@akihon whatever, if by feelings you mean.. both hatred and soft corner, then Yes I still have hatred for him for cheating.. i am a bad person.. i may be.. but i was no bad to him

[akihon]

I didn't say your a bad person, I frankly care not one but either way, what he did is what he did again I don't care, just pointing out that your statement bear no truth given that you do have feelings for him, one way or the other.

[little_bird1]

@akihon You're wrong, I also enjoy knowing that my ex is doing bad. I would snoop in from time to time just to check if karma is doing a good job. Yes, it's a feeling of resentment and I hold that grudge forever with every ex who treated me like shit.

[akihon]

So your saying you feel nothing but enjoy stalking your ex and essentially relish when things aren't going right for them but still feel nothing, have absolutely no emotional responses one way or the other. Oh the irony

[21browngirl]

@akihon exactly.. may a little fun seeing him.. with next ugly girl. or doing bad with his career.. or may be gone limp in an accident. I know i sound brutal.. but you dont know my story so stop judging me

[little_bird1]

@akihon I didn't say I feel nothing, I feel pleasure. And I see he's doing very good then I feel annoyed like I feel with anything unfair in this world.
But that's only with few exes who did me VERY wrong, pretty much used me and abused me with no remorse. I don't care about others, I don't check their social media, I feel indifferent towards them.

[akihon]

I'm not judgmental over anyone I just find it a bit hypocritical to say you feel nothing but then feel pleasure when their lives go a bit crappy, I wonder though if they were doing the same in return, is that justified is that acceptable given your so sure it's acceptable that you do it. I wonder while I'm not throwing stones here, it takes two to make it work and two to break it, are you both saying that you are total without any blame. I doubt that's the case, isn't it then a little childish to do that isn't the best thing to move on with your lives and do the best for you, it seems then your both trying to convince yourself that you don't feel anything for these men but enjoy when things go wrong, what then when things go right, is there envy, anger, melancholy. Or all three. Oh the irony to state you feel nothing for them but hold onto the hurt and anger and bitterness they may have caused. To enjoy when it goes wrong for them but be low when it goes right.

[little_bird1]

@akihon I feel about him the same way I feel about Hitler. Or a raper on local news that's getting away. Of course I'm curious to check if they caught him, because justice. I only want justice for my ex.

[akihon]

Seems to me like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die but if that's what gets you through the day then.

[Shamalien]

lol woah more than half the girls said no. Scary shit. They are obviously in denial. Almost half of guys saying the same thing as well. This is fucked.

[Lightning8]

Yes. If you just used the person and dumped them, why would care at all to see how they're doing? You wouldn't care if they died tragically or committed suicide.

[Lightning8]

At least that's the impression I get from people

[jrs91]

No, I used to check up to see if she was as miserable, or worse than I was. She's not... and I hate my life.

[AlongCameCindy]

I mean no it doesn't but it can do, i've literally done it out of curiosity.
im more likely not to look if i have feelings.

[Rob19777]

Both feelings and curios8

[Rob19777]

Curiosity*

[Nahid1707]

It’s bad to do and you should move on

[Anonymous]

Yes. Or somehow you're life is boring