Will we ever make it?

[Anonymous]

Im22 & my ex is 23 ... I have been dating this guy for 5 months he has a baby mama which they been together 5 years they have a 4 year old together and now has another baby on the way which was made by him cheating on me with her. Everybody that’s been around us knows how I feel about my boyfriend everyone knew I was so in love with him and my boyfriend did to but Through out our 5 months of dating my ex has been with her (The babymama) every step of the way In my eyes... so it was kinda like he was dating both of us at the same time but without me knowing we have been on & off because of this & we recently broke up completely because I felt like I was more in love with him than he was with me & He says it’s do to me playing get back games in which I was doing because I was hurt but it was nothing like me sleeping with other people it was money issues I guess u can say he gave me his last and I didn’t want to pay him back because he promised me he’d go half on the rent and when the time came he didn’t & I played him into giving me the money anyway so he calls me childish for that... (ps he would always tellme he loves me) but of course he puts the blameall on me for our failed relationship.. now don’t get me wrong I had a few fuck ups during our time but it was never nothing break up worthy like what he put me through, he made a baby on me had is babymama in my car while I was at work and so much more & this story is much longer than I’m putting it I’m just giving the short version our break up was very nasty he said he would always put his babymama before me & I just feel like I put my all Into him because he would always say his babymama was never a good girlfriend so I tried showing him something different I just wanna know will he ever realize what he had with me or will he be stuck on his bitter babymama forever?

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+1 y

Everybody says she doesn’t wanna see him happy & he falls for her tricks everytime they are now back together. He blocked me on everything & it’s been almost two weeks since I heard from him. Will he ever come back to me?

[Avicenna]

Why would you want to be with this guy at all? Move on.

[Asker]

True in my brain I know I should leave but my heart morns for him 😭

[Avicenna]

Your heart will recover. Listen to your brain.

[Iron_Man]

That all depends on how bad you and your partner want it

[Asker]

I know I want it really bad but I don't know how he feels he says he’s only with her for the kids but of course I don’t believe him and sometimes he says things he doesn’t mean so I don't know how he feels on his part honestly

[In_Trance]

Smh... whatever ya want

[Asker]

What does that mean?

[In_Trance]

This is a giant waste of time in my opinion. Move on

[Jojojojojojojo]

That’s terrible.

[Jojojojojojojo]

He was very disrespectful to you

[Jojojojojojojo]

Want to talk privately?

[Asker]

Yes and he really was 😩

[Asker]

& I hate how I still wanna make things work but I doubt that will ever happen again 🥺

[Jojojojojojojo]

Is he good looking or rich? I wonder what made u stay..

[Jojojojojojojo]

My previous ex also had 5years relationship with an ex. I dumped him because he sometimes talked about her , still using the wallet she sent him , said and did disrespectful Things to me. it was one year and three months relationship. I understand how it feels. His ex’s thing made me nervous , insecure For a whole year. Soon the relationship turned toxic. Really. I mean don’t stay and waste youth on someone Who doesn’t deserve it.

[Jojojojojojojo]

Do u know if he still keeps his ex ‘s nudes or sex tapes?

[Asker]

Yes I went through his phone once and he had a sex tape of her & another girl one of his other recent exes but the video of his baby mama was from a long time ago I don't know if he still has it most likely he does & i feel completely insecure cuz he wasn’t even my type! I completely lowered my standards for him! No he’s kinda not good looking but he’s a charming son of a gun and no he isn’t wealthy but he knows how to get money I knew I shouldn’t of stayed but we just went so well together and I didn’t want it to end

[Asker]

I thought if I would of stayed and fight for him it would of made him realize what he had with me but it didn’t cuz I soon as I did something he didn’t like it was the end of the world and he started looking at me different he also to me a whole bunch of hurtful things like his bm kitty was better than mine and how she would always come before me smh but other days he would be like he’s done with her and how they would never work etc I just don’t understand him he says she did all this hurtful things to him but still he goes back to her

[Asker]

I broke up with him cuz I said I needed space and he made it seem like he broke up with me because I said I didn’t like his unborn child which I didn’t say I just said I’d have resentment because u had that baby on me and that’s only right anybody else would feel the same way! I don't know why I stayed so long smh he said he loved me I just can’t believe he moved on with her days after we broke up and he acts like he doesn’t give af about me AT ALL mine u I also have a 2 year old and he says I act just like him another reason why he says he “broke” up with me.