So about over 4 months ago my ex broke up with me because I’m transferring colleges this fall and he probably thinks I wouldn’t stay committed to him after months of being away from him. The night of the breakup, I was crying a lot saying that I wouldn’t do that to him and I’d still stay no matter what. I don’t even care about distance or anything like that because my intention for the rest of my 2 years of college is focusing on my work and nothing else, yet my ex didn’t seem to believe me and said “you deserve better than me and we shouldn’t be together anymore” 3 months after our breakup, I finally got over any feelings of him. A couple weeks ago, my parents said I should call him and say happy birthday to him (my parents and him got along well for the 6 months him and I dated so they remember his birthday). So since he made my last birthday before our breakup really amazing, I wanted to call him to say happy birthday, but I was so very tired from 2 weeks of college finals that I was so emotional (mostly cranky) and I didn’t want to be that way towards him. So I asked my parents if they could just call him for me and please tell him happy birthday for me (I felt really awful I was way too tired to do it myself since I slept all day) and that I’m sorry I can’t say happy birthday personally but I’ve barely slept in 2 weeks. So my parents do it for me, and my ex tells them to hand me the phone but I was passed out on the couch. My parents told me he sounded upset and to call him when I’m not too busy or too tired to talk. So 8 days later, I call him and I say sorry for not being able to say happy birthday and I hope he’s okay. His reaction was, “Yeah please never have your parents call me again please” and said that twice in a stern voice towards me. I said “I’m sorry, I really wanted to call you myself to say happy birthday but I was extremely sleep deprived all day so I told them to do it for me and nothing else. When I asked my parents what they said on the phone
They told me that they just said happy birthday from me to him and that’s when he asked them to hand the phone to me but I was passed out cold. After I explained to my ex why I had my parents help me, he said nothing and changed the topic with small talk. Afterwards he said “okay I’ll let you go, you can call me anytime or even if you are having an emergency please call me” and then told me have a good semester and I told him that too and we said bye and I hung up. It’s not like my parents ever
hated him and not even now. It’s not like anyone is forcing him to get back with me again since I’m over it. Why was my ex being so stern at me yet encourages me to call him anytime and even in an emergency too?