Is silence the best revenge after a breakup?

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Recently my boyfriend of 1 year, break up with me because i was too needy- it was not a clean break up, just got blocked over night- if at first i rant some sort of anger because of the blocking, i was blocked again. This time i went total silent, he counted 10 days for a reaction- then he went back to normal. Today it's nearly 1 month and i am still silent and he has not even reached out.
It was heart breaking at first but i was able to control my feeling and reaction. Today i feel that i conquered a mountain by letting go without drama. what you this, Is silence the best revenge after a breakup?

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MannMitAntworten · Accepted Answer

Your silence is not a revenge. His blocking of you twice for lashing out and his own lack of communication for a month indicates his appreciation of your silence. Meaning, it is not a form of revenge. For him, it is a welcomed thing. I mean, he breaks up with you and you feel entitled to some form of revenge? Why? For him you were too “needy” for his taste. He expresses this in ending things so you decide to lash out. When that doesn’t work toy go with the silent treatment for revenge which for him is a blessing... still, what is accomplished in all this by you? The necessity to get the last say?

jiedwar1234 · Accepted Answer

It can be but it ultimately depends on the situation. Personally, I've found that the best way to get revenge on an ex is to find somebody else to have a relationship with and be happy. Your ex will constantly look at the two of you and only be reminded of what could have been.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I don't like to play games either you are with me or you are not. If you find me too much then we are incompatible. No one and I mean no one can push you to behave a certain way. The can express what bothers them so that you can alter that behaviour but If it's something that makes you you they need to walk away. Imagine If the shoe were on the other foot? Would it be right of me to tell someone they're x then block them until they act right?

It's not revenge you're seeking the ultimate goal should be peace. Think about it. You do realise this is your life. Right?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Can I offer you some words of wisdom, anon? The best revenge to a breakup, is to forget them. Don't even give him the pleasure of thinking you miss him (even if you do), because ultimately, it serves no purpose. The fact that he blocked and left you first shows he was done with the relationship at that point.

I do agree going "silent" is a good tactic- however, not to get revenge, but to purge him from your life: no social media, no texting, no phone calls, just ignore him. Continue that until you've move on.

1Anon · Answer

Honestly, I don’t care about revenge because it’s too much effort and I have better things to do with my life. However, after a breakup I go full silent because he is literally now a part of my past; I don’t even bother blocking him (but definitely unfriended). Don’t get me wrong, I’d be hurt and heartbroken but he’d never know or see that he got to me.

Anonymous · Answer

The best thing you can do after breakup is block him forever. Jerks like him don't deserve your tears, anger or any emotional response.
I also had messy breakups where I abused them verbally because they PLAYED ME. That bastard only got more angry and spread fake rumors that I'm an arrogant psycho.
Then I realised that ghosting them is the best pain you can ever give them.

ohshee · Answer

You can look at if its revenge if thats what your doing it fo,, r for me i would look at it as , wtf really im not in to games im trying to reach out to you and then your making me act like a fool because i dont understand it,, if you want me show me other wise i have to make a hard choice on following through with who i am and want to be i think its cool and you did the right thing let me ask you the things you needed benefited him to right

Twenty2 · Answer

It's good. I personally feel that if a bond is broken, it'll never be the same. I blocked a girl once because she was lying to my face and avoiding me. Later I felt as if I should have given her more time (she was going through something) so I unblocked her and gave her my full attention and tried to help her go through stuff and a few months later I had to end things again. Letting go is the best.

doopayo · Answer

The best option in a break up is to let go. Never cry over a guy, you’re way too pretty for that 💗.

You’ve got options girl, love your best life and someone who’s worth it will join you eventually!

boboho · Answer

I don't think silence is a revenge, why should you take revenge. I was reminded of the silent treatment that was made narcissistic. They are immature. Better just let it go and forgive. It's better for you and your heart, also in the future.

EaterPeter · Answer

Every day is a victory after break up. Do something new and creative. Which is difficult after break up. You do not want to do anything which is very predicted from ex and give them any closure. They see you behaving certain way and they go. Yupp that's her totally likenm her. That's why I left her. And this approach is also not full proof. Get any and every help you need. Dont get in rebound relationship please. Take time to heal. It takes about a year on average.

Angelo75 · Answer

It is the most appropiate response.
But not because of revenge, but from dignity.
Otherwise you'll end up saying stuff that then u'll either feel sorry for afterwards or regret.
So yeah... just be silent.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Girl you deserve so much better. You’re not too needy maybe just wasn’t meeting your needs. Dont blame yourself. And yes silence is the deepest killer after a break up.

RickVienna · Answer

Yes I did this. Why should I contact her? I want to create a new life without her. She broke up with me because I was to small to satisfy her on the long run. ( 2.8 inches errect) she wanted to feel a real man she said.
I got some mean messages but I didn't react. She wrote I should stay alone and stop dating. I can't satisfy any women... and so on... but I didn't answer...

sheikalana · Answer

I don't see it as a revenge I don't use revenge against my exes if we broke up it's because we were not meant to be but I see silence as a necessary measure to detach from someone after a breakup.

spartan55 · Answer

In your case your silence is/was the ultimate weapon.

Jersey2 · Answer

I don’t do revenge after a breakup. It emotionally cut ties and keep moving. Revenge is still emotionally invested, I’m out and that’s it when I have broken up.

sp33d · Answer

Do what you feel is necessary, I guess. You broke up, instead of wallowing and thinking 'revenge', let it go and live your life. I'm sure you have plenty of responsibilities to consider.

Rasmind78 · Answer

Stay silent. Move on. Focus on a new hobby sis☺️ More power to you

Waldoe · Answer

you do not NEED revenge... just accept the fact that the relationship is over, do something nice for yourself. DO NOT prove that he was Right about you being a crazy bitch...

Wise4myage · Answer

Sounds like you did what was right for you and not him. I say block him, but he's correct about you being needy, than work on overcoming that.

dudeinohio · Answer

After a breakup, permanent silence is the way to go. An ex is past history. You just move on.

douride2 · Answer

In my experience silence is the best reaction after a breakup.

In_Trance · Answer

It's the right thing to do. Revenge is for small minded people.  Go your separate ways and live your life.

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