Would you ever have a one night stand to take revenge on your ex?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

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[Anonymous]

I did. My ex said she didn't want anything to do with me and ended things.
I was frustrated and heartbroken. One if my coworkers had a thing for me and she came by and poked me. I pulled her back and kissed her.
Initially I apologized because it was at work, but she said she liked it and I could kiss her again if I wanted.
Later she asked for a ride home, I said yes and we left. We made out in the elevator and we fucked in the parking garage. I actually lost my virginity to her, cause I was dating a Mormon sex was off the table, and I regret it but we had unprotected sex. As much as we enjoyed it and hinted at continuing. I was so worried by her possibly getting pregnant, it ruined that. She didn't.
My ex reached out 7 months later and we got back together, but was angry I lost my virginity.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, because then I would be a cheater, just like her.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Can you cheat on an ex?

[OlderAndWiser]

If she's already an ex, how is having a ONS cheating?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't know.
You brought up cheating. The term is not present in the question.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'm very precise with my questions and my words. Answers must be to the letter. I had to whip this on employees and loved ones alike.

[OlderAndWiser]

How does having a ONS get revenge on your ex?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Well with my ex N. two years ago it was enough posting a picture with another girl after the break up to make her threaten homicide/suicide.
It wasn't intentional, but surely some exes do throw their heads off for those things.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, and you need to avoid those girls!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Easier said than done!

[Daniela1982]

Sometimes doing something like that to get revenge on an ex only hurts you. He/she is not the one who will suffer with an STD or wind up killed by a serial killer who charmed the pants off you in order to get that one night stand. Haven't you ever watched Criminal Minds?

[Kas19]

I think you watch too much criminal minds.

[Daniela1982]

@Kas19 Apparently you don't ever watch the news. True story: girl left a bar with two men. She texted her friend soon after that she thought she was in trouble. It was prophetic as they found her body later on. That was her last one night stand.

[Kas19]

What does that have to do with anything?

[Daniela1982]

@Kas19 You're kidding right? The thread was about a one night stand for revenge and I said any one night stand was taking a chance.

[Kas19]

You just took a big leap and it seemed silly in my opinion. That's about it.

[Daniela1982]

@Kas19 Bah! What do you know. You are probably on of those donks who hops from one bed to another and defend one night stands. Did you do that with your ex?

[Kas19]

No. I don't do one night stands. You sound insecure, hope you work on that.

[Daniela1982]

@Kas19 I can't help it if you can't understand what a thread is about. Sheesh

[Kas19]

I understand. Just think you made too much of a jump, just like you did a second ago when you assumed I have regular one night stands just because I think what you said was dumb.

[kaylaS91]

.. no. All that doing something in hopes of getting ‘revenge’ would accomplish would make you look bitter, crazy, plus desperate.


He’s my ex for a reason and I’d much rather act my age and put all time/energy towards enjoying my life- with or without him.

[Anonymous]

Well I don't know if I’d do it again but I will say that I have lol imma Scorpio ♏️ so I’m very vengeful, honestly for me though personally is was for my own redemption and not so much revenge for him but vengeance for me. I don't know of that makes sense but yeh, he doesn’t know about and never will but even if he did him hurting over it wouldn’t bother me. I really did it for me and not so much necessarily for him lol

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Well you did for yourself to get better, that's not bad.
Like the saying goes - ''Get over someone by getting under someone else''.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeh but the way I went about it most people probably wouldn’t have done lol in the end though the sex with these two individuals for what I’d like to call my “redemption sex” was kinda trash and just not as good lol I did take my revenge to the next level though by sleeping with 5 different guys on 5 separate occasions but on two of the occasions had sex within less than an hour and then went straight to my ex’s house and let him fuck me too, then I did it again on another occasion after only have had sex with a different guy a few hours before I let my ex hit it again. 😅 u wanna talk about revenge and ultimate vengeance because that’s exactly wtf I got lol it really helped me and I felt way better and not guilty at all , and I still don’t feel guilty lol so there’s my story 😂😅

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I understand, thank you for sharing with me.
What matters in the end is that you felt better and enjoyed it.

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely no problem and yes it definitely did make me feel better & if he ever found out about it , it would only be if I told him about it, which I won’t, but I will say the power that I have knowing that if I told him something like that and knowing how badly it could potentially hurt him because of it gives me a sense of peace, lol sounds pretty fucked probably I know but it’s just me being honest. I don’t technically want to hurt him or for him to be hurt but knowing I have the power to do it is great lol unfortunately I still love him 🤦🏻‍♀️😅 and I think he knows of feels like I had fucked at least one person if anything but I continued to deny it, because honestly just like one of the others on here commented on, if we are broke up u can literally fuck and do whatever u want because ur not together 🤷🏻‍♀️ basically lol hope this helps 🙂

[Daniela1982]

@jean-marie_celine That sounds more like destructive behavior. Is it really going to help you any in the long run? If something happens in life that you don't like are you going to go bed hopping to make yourself feel better? That's the kind of like an excuse people use to justify drinking or drug use. It only hurts you in the end, not them.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand where she’s coming from but as long as u don’t make it a Repetitive behavior then it’s not that bad it’s certainly not technically a good thing and I never will say it will be a good thing but people are gonna do what they want to do and live their lives the way they want to regardless I’ve learned you can’t expect certain things and certain people to be a certain way but what you can do is let it affect you a certain way

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve learned from myself and from other people that you can’t change anything or anyone they would have to change themselves even if they want to change or you want to change you have to make the initiative and action to do it it’s not enough just wanting to do you have to do it

[kyila96]

Personally no. I might go on dates or make out with a guy, but if I’m solely having sex with someone to get one up on my ex, whose loss is it really?

As a female, more risks come with having sex: pregnancy being the main one, and a reputation if you care about that. Not to mention, STIs. In my opinion, the best revenge is having your ex watch you succeed. I’d prefer to work on myself as that way I’m not letting my ex have a hold over me and my life.

[DavidHart]

That's the best.. agreed.

[DavidHart]

No.. i couldn't..
My mindset work like some woman..
i can't really get a boner if i am not attracted to the woman,
and if i do attracted to the woman and have sex with her,
i tend to fall in love (adore/care) with her..
in other words, i kind of treating woman who had intercourse with me like a wife.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, why would I risk my own health or risk getting some stranger pregnant because I picked the wrong person the first time? Why repeat the same mistake? I see no difference between the value of a long term ex that didn't work out and a one night stand.
Both are not worth my time and would be mistakes to be with.
Also why do people think revenge sex is a thing? It's not a thing, no one who leaves you or cheats on you is going to give 2 shits who you are humping.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I mean we are already broken up. My business is my business and if I have a one night stand it’s because I want to , not out of revenge

[Adam1978]

No she is my ex and that means I already dumped her and she has no longer any influence on my life. Don't see how me sleeping around would be revenge in the first place. That logic doesn't make sense. My sex life would only affect me not her.

[lea_jk]

i won't make a mistake to accept someone else's mistake, cz then I'll be just like him..
and for making him pissed, that'll make him mad for a short time and then he'll be relieved of his guilt cz for him i did as he did.
so the real revenge would be, of just me living my life luke he never existed, that'll kill him every day a thousand times.

[Kas19]

Maybe. Depends. I try to avoid making rash decisions and one night stands aren't my thing. I'd imagine I'd only do it to get my mind off things, or if he cheated.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

How would that be revenge on them if they are your Ex? Do you mean having the ONS with someone they are friends with or related to?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Could be a possibility

[SuccessfulHornDog]

I would have to be very angry to bother but ya never know

[Gwenhwyfar]

No cause that’s a silly way of getting revenge on someone

[Tranquility_Lady]

No beacuse i am too good to do something so evil.

I care about them and would never hurt them

Thats abuse. I find that gross. Scary dark. Tour gonna sexual abuse them for 1 night.

What if he or her is a virgin?

No i could never.

[melanieeeB]

Nope I rather just move on.
Also I wouldn't take revenge, I let Karma do that shit for me.

[Jessie91331]

Especially if I could make sure he gets to walk in and see it... even better if it is with his BFF or his brother / dad / cousin / other close family member.

[Ifriqyan]

Wth no?
Wny would I? If he's gone then he's gone.
Why should I lower my chances of getting another quality man by sleeping around.
Most quality men in my culture don't want that.

[DavidHart]

u are definitely true..

[pleasestopthis]

One night stands aren't my thing, so I don't think I would do it just to get at some ex... seems like too much effort for someone who's not worth the time.

[t-8900]

They made knives for tires and keys for car paint, duh

jk haha jk... seriously I'm not advocating for that. Dont do it. :X

[FreyaRed]

He already an ex and if it hurts him, it's his personal problem, not mine.

[Siren777]

No. Time to move the f on. Too much energy being spent in the past.

[Lady_Ann]

Why would I do that? He is a fu@@r not me. Bye bye beach!

[Aria96]

I did I cheated with he’s girlfriend and when he caught us tried join in I said your not joining us.

[Finchie40]

That’s a damn good revenge lol

[CaliDad]

That's both funny and fun! For better or worse, I had an ex try this... I ended up having them both afterwards, but neither knew about the other.