Is there a chance he'll come back?

[DeadOnInside]

I've been talking to a guy for a little over a year, we never made our relationship official but our focus was always on each other. A little over a month ago, he told me our connection wasn't really there anymore, that the spark wasn't there like we used to have. When I asked why he felt that way he said he didn't know why honestly but that it's just how he felt now that it could change. Well after that I tried hanging out with him but he would say he was always busy with work. Then tonight I guess I was frustrated and I told him he's not busy all day. And that's when he told me "Honestly, I like someone else. I'm sorry" I told him but I asked you that before and you said no. He answered "I didn't before but I do now" He apologized and said he truly liked me and loved me but that he lost interest and met someone else. I asked how long he's liked her and he said about two weeks. I obviously got even more upset because I was being strung along so I told him that I should have kept my guard up. He said "Wym? U act like I cheated or something. We never officially were dating" to which I responded "Not even, i just didn't want to get hurt. And I know were werent official but I kept my attention and focus on only you. always" he answered "I did too but I just lost feelings, it's my fault" I sat there and tried pinpointing these "2 weeks" he supposedly started liking someone else only to realize that less than two weeks ago he texted me "Come see me now I'm drunk and need u now" WTF? What do I make of this? I really love him and I was sure he did too... but how does someone just lose their feelings for the person they love and then suddenly like someone else? I just want him back...

[SueShe]

There is a chance yes, BUT...

If he comes back it is because you would give him this opportunity with your behavior. His decision was made much longer than 2 weeks ago to be unfaithful to you. It takes more than just 2 hours to find someone else and to get infatuated with that person. This is an issue that has been going on since at least 2 months in my opinion.

Now, don't give him the chance to be the substitute when his new relation fails. If you let him know that you still love him, he will misuse these feelings of your to come back but only until he finds someone new and then the entire circus starts over again.

Even if it is hard on you, don't give him this chance to come back because it will fail and you will be hurt again. Guaranteed.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If someone says that to you, the bigger question is... Why would you want someone like that back? If they can disregard you or your feelings for someone they've only known for two weeks, that alone should tell you more than anyone on here can

[boggboss]

He didn't love u he was infatuated with you you dont just fall in love in such a short space off time and u won't get him back hun as he has moved on yes its shit but its clear he dont want u anymore

[Anonymous]

You should forget this guy and move on with your life.

[OlderAndWiser]

Is this all long distance?

[DeadOnInside]

No it’s not long distance

[OlderAndWiser]

So you've been dating and had a sexual relationship with this guy before he pulled the plug on everything?

[DeadOnInside]

Yes basically but never really made it official because Initially I was always working so we didn’t see each other as much at first

[OlderAndWiser]

Why would you want to get back together with a guy who treated you like this? Is this the best you can possibly hope for?

[DeadOnInside]

He treated me really good before all this happened. We had a great bond as we both seemed to like each other a year prior to finally talking and getting to know each other. We never really argued either, we seemed to talk to each other well when it came to disagreements.

[OlderAndWiser]

My impression is that you should look back at what happened and question whether he was being sincere with much of what he told you Obviously, you thought it meant more to him than it actually did.

[Iron_Man]

There’s always a chance take it slow

[In_Trance]

Hopefully not