Boyfriend says we wouldn't be friends if we broke up, is this a bad sign?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend the other day, that if we hypothetically broke up, would we still be friends.

He told me to stop asking stupid questions and causing trouble, but I thought it was fair and kept asking him until he said "no, we wouldn't. Happy now?"

and it upset me, and now I don't know what to think.

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+1 y

I really don't understand what's wrong with just asking!

[OutWestBandit]

I think usually when that question comes up... its because the girl leaves the guy for someone else.

While this may be a part of growing as person - and realizing this person is not going the same direction in life as you are.

It also can be because the girl just found someone hotter. (lol)

In any case - if the guy is attached to the girl - - that translates into: "you are not good enough"

nobody wants to hear that.

But you are telling him - its ok you can relive it over and over when you talk to me as as friends. lol

[coachTanthony]

Why would two people remain friends after a break up unless there are children involved? So many people remain friends out of pity or obligation or to make themselves feel better and the correct answer should be NO.

"Let fear be a counselor and not a jailer."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

[yucychan]

Well, you wanted an answer, and so you got one. And you are not happy with it. Girls can be so hard to please at times.
If you can't accept his answer in the first place, then don't ask.
As for me, I always feel if couples broke up, they shouldn't remain friends anymore.

[MysteriousDarkness]

You up set him first by asking a hypothetical about being friends or not if you two broke up. On top it you kept asking him until he answered you. That was so stupid of you to ask that question. Many people in a relationship if asked that question or a similar question would think their boyfriend/girlfriend actually wants to break up.

[williamHD]

You sound like your considering it and nothing wrong with that it happens sadly. It hurts his feelings so he has every right to not want to be your friend. If it ends good though usually you two will become friends again

[Anon-01]

Being friends after a relationship is very difficult anyway. I think he said it out of frustration because women like to ask stupid questions.

[MrCommodore]

He's right, it's unlikely you could be just friends after you crossed that barrier and became boyfriend/girlfriend. At best you can be 'friendly' when you bump into each other etc.

[admles]

Why would you ask such a stupid question?

That’s essentially picking a fight for no reason.

In any case, being friends with an ex is usually a bad idea.

[exitseven]

I would not want to be friends either. Too many memories and hard feelings.

[Anonymous]

Eventually you will realize that it is never a good idea to be friends with someone after breaking up. Possibly if you have kids, otherwise just move on

[KrakenAttackin]

Your boyfriend is right. There is no point in being "friends" with an ex.

[anylolone]

Depends.