Long story short - my recent ex (broke up 3 weeks ago) has struggled with insecurities for as long as I've known him. Insecurities around material items, his appearance, etc. he is obsessed with having the "best" and most "expensive" version of everything.
He has this trait where he is constantly trying to upgrade everything around him - he has a great friend group, but constantly says he needs more friends. He has a great living situation (apartment + roommates) but is now searching for something "better", he has a great job but has been fixated on finding something "better" for months now. Recently, he dumped me because he has a lot going on, he doesn't know what he wants, he's struggling with turning 30 and doesn't know/feel experienced enough to know if this is what he wants long term.
I was completely heartbroken and blindsided. We were perfect together, we were so similar, barely ever argued and when we did we resolved it quickly. We did so much together + vacationed together and genuinely enjoyed each others company. It's hard for me to hear how everything's perfect, but he is wondering if something else is "more perfect." Again, another instance of him constantly trying to upgrade everything around him. There was no one else in the picture & I genuinely believe he's not lying about his reasoning.
A few of his friends (mutual) reached out to me and told me he's been drinking like crazy with a group of guys significantly younger than him since we've broken up and they feel as though he's going through a life crisis. It hurts me to know that he's struggling, but he broke up with me to "figure out what he really wants" so I don't know if reaching out is the thing to do.
He has this trait where he is constantly trying to upgrade everything around him - he has a great friend group, but constantly says he needs more friends. He has a great living situation (apartment + roommates) but is now searching for something "better", he has a great job but has been fixated on finding something "better" for months now. Recently, he dumped me because he has a lot going on, he doesn't know what he wants, he's struggling with turning 30 and doesn't know/feel experienced enough to know if this is what he wants long term.
I was completely heartbroken and blindsided. We were perfect together, we were so similar, barely ever argued and when we did we resolved it quickly. We did so much together + vacationed together and genuinely enjoyed each others company. It's hard for me to hear how everything's perfect, but he is wondering if something else is "more perfect." Again, another instance of him constantly trying to upgrade everything around him. There was no one else in the picture & I genuinely believe he's not lying about his reasoning.
A few of his friends (mutual) reached out to me and told me he's been drinking like crazy with a group of guys significantly younger than him since we've broken up and they feel as though he's going through a life crisis. It hurts me to know that he's struggling, but he broke up with me to "figure out what he really wants" so I don't know if reaching out is the thing to do.
