Yeah, they do
Some do, some don't
No, they only get more attractive
I don't have any exes
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Do your exes get uglier to you after a break up?
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They become unattractive the moment they cause me to want to breakup. Personality is something serious. But physically, lets see? Well Dez #1 started smoking all kinds of stuff and looked shriveled and was no longer hot. Dez #2 ruined his body with tattoos, so no longer hot. Dez #3 cut his hair so he did look better for a sec but then he pierced both ears so it was like ew. Lu just didn't grow so his height eventually became more unattractive when we ended. Tee started to starve himself and he looked shriveled. Nate started smoking crap so he looked shriveled. Ty #1 grew facial hair so nope. Ty #2 looks like a crackhead now. Ty #3 began sounding like Urkel. For Ty #4 and some others, i realized how much i didn't like their nose. It ruined their face. Basically, i’ll overlook flaws til you piss me
off then i’ll recall some things i overlooked. Only one ex still looks fine af and thats Ky. Good lord that mf is sexy. I hate seeing him at church tho cause he still winks and i just melt lmao. Only other one who looked good later on is one who got away… Parker. Sexy mofo
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Oh gosh yes! At least that's what I experience.
It's as if the "blinders" come off and you see them for who they really are: flaws and all. I think back to EVERY ex or guy I wanted to date and ask myself, "What the hell was I thinking?"
Sometimes it's an on-and-off thing. But believe me when they do get ugly I try my best to stay in control and not go ballistic. Because believe me, it's a pain in the ass with one of your ex girlfriends or boyfriends come back to you and all of a sudden they break up with you again knowing it hasn't even been a month or a week yet. Your mind just picture and what would have happened before it happens. Like when my girlfriend broke up with me while showing me her new boyfriend I can totally picture stabbing her new boyfriend in the neck with a knife, breaking her neck then killing myself. everything goes back in Reverse if you know what I mean. You know how in the movies were people are in a situation, they do something such as killing or talkin then when they come back to their senses the situation never happen as they pictured it in their mind? When you get your heart broken more than once by your ex's it eventually gets uglier for you and her or him.
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Yeah sometimes. When you’re in love with someone’s personality, you start to find them physically more attractive. So I get why when you break up and the feelings are gone, a lot of the time you find your physical attraction to them disappears too
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I've only had two exes, neither of which I have any hard feelings towards anymore, but I don't really feel any way towards them. They are just ordinary men to me now. To be honest, it was more the connection I had with me that attracted me to them than their looks anyway, but that isn't there anymore.
When it came to crushes I had when I was younger, they definitely became less attractive to me after the crush was over, especially the one that acted like a total asshole to me out of nowhere for no reason. It seems that to me, even with just people in general and not just crushes/partners/etc., their attitude has a lot to do with how I perceive them. Inner beauty and ugliness both really shine through. -
Less attractive. Definitely. When the hazy romantic feelings fade, they look way more average, or worse.
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You need to have an option for "they stay the same".
That's how I feel about my exes.
I still think my first fiancé is probably about the most gorgeous man I ever met, physically speaking. But I didn't break up with him because I thought he wasn't gorgeous - it was because over time I realized he was not ambitious in the same ways I was.
Ten years later, turns out I was very correct. But physically speaking, I still think he's a super hottie, and I will always feel fondness and care for him in my heart. -
Of course, they do, but it's not essential "ugly" in looks what causes that, though it can be in relation. From my understanding what you go through with an ex is kind of like despising them. Considering that they are no longer with you it also follows the relationship you have now whether you guys ended on a good note or a bad one. Typically they end up bad, therefore, we tend to despise them because they are no longer with us of causing us pain and from there we dislike them in general which can then fall into looks of course. But it is more of an internal feeling of dislike considering what you feel is deeper than just looks. I also think that when men end a relationship they tend to think it was "mutual" so they don't really hate/dislike the other, but when women end the relationship its usually felt like some type of scorn.
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Yes. Absolutely. I'm 20 so I'm still young. However, I started "dating" at 15-16 I dated 6 other people from my freshman year to my junior year of high school and I'm still dating the same person that I've been with since the end of my junior year and it has been almost 3 years that I've been with him. I still have my ex's on social media that I have no animosity with and they are uglier than shit to me & that isn't a joke whatsoever. I now wonder why I was so upset & hung up over these people and wonder why I wasted my time with them... I feel almost silly for being so hung up over people that I wouldn't even consider worth my time now. However, you live & you learn I suppose.
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Unless you over-inflated their positive qualities in your mind or they put on a lot of wait during the relationship/post breakup, then breaking up won't change the level of physical attraction you have for an ex.
At least that's the case for me. I've only ever gotten into relationships with girls I was very attracted to and where there was a lot of chemistry and connection.
Never had a relationship end for lack of passion. Every single EX I've had has come back around at some point to play with the idea of either getting back together, making amends and trying to be back in my life,
Or a minimum apologizing for their behavior
It was tempting for several of them. Because they were a good person, we were good together, I'm still attracted to them. Things just didn't work out for this or that reason. -
They definitely become uglier to me. After the relationship ends - especially because of the other person - you start to see how they really weren't so great as time goes on without them. At first you kick and scream and holler for it not to be over, but as weeks and months go by you start feeling like "What did I even see in this person?" and "Yeah, she really wasn't The One after all."
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ex1: got tattoos and got the Lord farquaad hairdo.
ex2: He actually had a mental disorder, but until we broke up he went ballistic and disappeared.
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It depends on why you’ve broken up and how/if both of you have changed since. Like I have one ex who I wouldn’t even look at now, tbh I only dated him at the time because I somehow fell for his personality, but I was really different back then when I found him appealing. Another ex will always be hot, but personality-wise I don’t find him attractive.
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Women tend to be more beautiful to me when I feel affectionate towards them. If I found out she was mean or had a bad attitude while we were together, I tend to not find them as physcially attractive. In fact, I can look at the most technically beautiful women and not find them attractive if they've got a nasty attitude, are inconsiderate, mean, etc.
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If you do find your ex more attractive it could be that they used all the time they spent with you at the gym instead.
I know when I broke up, I was working out like crazy to get all the negative thoughts out of my head. My ex found me even more attractive while commenting that she was a couch potato instead. Not my problem lol.
The other thing is if you see they are coping really well, it can be easy to question how you didn't see the positive sides of them before. But that is also a trap! -
Neither of my exes got uglier after we broke up, but they did lose their sex appeal. Like I look at my most recent ex and she is still a model tier beauty, but I don't feel any desire for her anymore. There's nothing about her that make me want to touch her.
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None of these options are really accurate for me. My only ex doesn't seem any more or less physically attractive to me now than when we were together. For context, she was the one who broke it off and it was pretty amicable. I'm sure in other situations it might be different.
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I mean they all pretty much stayed the same, apart from the girl who got pregnant with her next boyfriend now she is super ugly and is a mother so safe to say i don't think about her. Shame she was hot and cool before that though could of kept that going until at least 30.
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I hope they don’t get ugly. Most of mine are still attractive but they’re just older. I really don’t have hard feelings for any of my exes so I really don’t hope they get ugly. I’d rather they stay about the same so if I say they dumped me, then it should be obvious why they dumped me.
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i've never had an ex, does that mean i'm the one getting uglier?
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I noticed the ones that screwed me over got much uglier. One of them gained 20lbs. Another took up smoking and got viable tattoos after age 30.
I was actually happy to see them because removed the (physically) attractive image I had of them in my mind. -
Yes. How much I like or dislike someone does effect how attractive they are to me. On a 10 point scale I would say it can change how I see them by 2 points in either direction.
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Nope but I have zero interest in going back to something I’ve already experienced. I just don’t care and I have no bitterness just no interest
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Sure do lol. But in all fairness my ex boyfriend changed his style up when we broke up and I would never date someone with his current style.
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