Should I keep it or return it?
My ex got me a gift months after our breakup?
Should I keep it or return it?
He broke up but he wants another chance. What do you want?
I gave him 2 chances already, I told him the 3rd chance is not happening. I don’t want him back. At least not now.
"I don’t want him back. At least not now." Not very convincing.
Do you want to keep him at a distance for a while as a punishment?
Why would I want him back when I know he hasn’t changed? Maybe if he’s changed his ways then I would give him a chance, hence, at least not now.
I don’t want to “keep him at a distance,” for “punishment,”
I want him away from me so we both can heal and move on.
Okay, but when you leave the door open to a possible reconciliation in the future, it sounds like you really aren't finished and ready to move on.
Keep it. Just because you keep it , doesn’t mean you still love him or want him back. Let him keep doing what he should’ve been doing went you two were together lol his loss in the end
That’s what I’ve been thinking… He’s trying to win me back lol.
He's trying to reel you back in. Don't fall for it. Keep the gift, though. Look at it like that's what he owes you for being a suck boyfriend.
He is definitely thinking about you.
He realises that he lost you due to his mistakes.
Tell him clearly that the damage is irreversible and you have moved on hence he should also move on and stop doing such stuffs as they have lost value in your eyes.
And if he says that he is fine with your decision then it's upto you to keep the gift or return the gift or donate the gift.
It's Christmas time so better to donate it as something you didn't earn, you should not keep it. It's a gift from a broken heart hence it'll not give you good vibes.
I read that you gave him chances already. I'm curious , what was the main cause of the breakup and how was it left?
He broke up with me this last time, apparently because he was moving away… But he lied. He texted me saying that he was never going to to move away, he was just going to another state for a couple weeks to do training for a job. His main (real) reasoning was that he felt guilty for lying to me, so he kept trying to run away from the relationship🤦🏼♀️
He left it badly, but I would text him and say that I’m not angry at him, I just don’t understand and that I can’t do this again because our trust is broken. He understood and was respectful of that but he has been sending me gifts and text messages/calls/emails.
So you're saying he's done this twice now and this will be the 3rd chance you give him (if you do)
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Keep it. Remember people for the good things they do for you. I never really understood why people get rid of stuff after a breakup. I kept things from my ex's even after I was married. I view those things as reminders of my life and the people who've helped shape it- good, bad, or indifferent. Doesn't mean you have to reciprocate it.
I kept everything I have gotten in a relationship, and I probably will keep this. It just feels weird because he did it after the breakup in hopes to get me back or compensate for being crappy to me. Just feels weird to accept it and not say or give anything back.
Maybe he wants you back, or maybe he still has feelings. Whatever the case, it's from someone's heart, so at least value it for that.