Should I or Not------Send a Gift to my Ex After One Year of Our Break Up?

Question

*******On and OFF No Relationship of Ups and Downs. I never OPTED to GO back with Him. I Dumped Him a Year Ago. xxoo

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nope. Don’t. You dumped him. Last thing I’d want from an ex is a gift if she was the one who dumped me. It’s like an insult or something. May give him mixed feelings. Maybe even give him hope that you’re missing him or wanting him back. Besides maybe he’s found someone else. You dumped him for a reason why you still keeping tabs on him. I don’t get this w women. You dumped him, kicked him out or whatever the case is yet you see him living a better life or w a new girl now you’re all torn up. How could he move on this quick? Why isn’t he responding to me? Etc, etc. move on, let him live his life.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Don't send him a gift, he'll interpret that as an attempt to get back together. Just send a short text message wishing him a Happy Birthday. That's what my ex-wife and I do on each other's birthdays... we had an amicable divorce several years ago.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Probably It’s better you allow him time and space to grieve and move on. Gift will only give him mixed feelings and an unnecessary hope.

But you know the dynamics better and the final decision is yours. I am sure you guess what would feel right thing to do. Follow your heart.

elizamichale1 · Accepted Answer

U shouldn't honey

Bethany22 · Answer

No, don't let him know you still think about him and imply that you still half wish you were still together

OlderAndWiser · Answer

After a break up, the only way you see your ex should be in your rearview mirror!

coachTanthony · Answer

Yes ! Yes! Yes! you only live once. Let us know how it goes though lol

Keyboardkat · Answer

If you dumped him over a year ago, why are you doing this? All you're doing is giving him mixed messages! Don't do it! Are you trying to still be "friends"? I used to HATE it when girls gave me conflicting messages! My internal hard drive crashes when fed conflicting data! I always wondered why girls do this! You dumped him. Now after a year you want to send him a gift? What are you trying to accomplish here? Are you having second thoughts about having dumped him?

icebrg25 · Answer

Well this man says hell no if you had an ex as I did, if I was to see her in 25 billion years it would still be too soon, and to spend another movie on a five for her I respect you ladies but she you guys and gals can do so you please this man won't ever do that

eternal_heck · Answer

That depends how close you two still are. If you’re friends? I’d say go for it. My ex bought me and Xbox for my birthday last year. 🤷‍♀️ We get each other Christmas gifts last year. We’re still close friends but certainly not going to get back together. If you’re not really close or anything, why bother?

YesterdaysChild · Answer

Why would you? It might make him think you want to get back together. It's not good to suck water back up after it has gone under the bridge and put it back upstream.

FellowTraveler · Answer

Hello Paris. Generally I would NOT send an 'EX' anything. I know it seems magnanimous, but you invite unintended consequences. He knows you better than anyone else. Even if this person is not in your near field they can still send back 'barbs' that will further hurt you. When it is officially over, both parties deserve their privacy.

Please heed what YesterdaysChild wrote.

prettyfacegoodtaste · Answer

think about the bond you want to cultivate w him.
honestly, and i think you know this, it sounds like a soul tie. and not a healthy one, but who am i to judge, i’ve been down this road.
personally, i would tally up the gains and losses and move according to which gives me the most benefit. my current goals is peaceful connections and financial independence, so it’d be a no for me, but whichever your goals are, stay true to them and make moves that will help you get closer to your dream self 💜

Sassysally · Answer

You dumped him equals no gift no nothing unless you are friends. Other than that leave a sleeping dog alone if you see him in passing wish him a happy birthday. Sending gifts to an ex can really play on their emotions if you two aren't in common grounds.

Anpu23 · Answer

If you are not planning on going back, the question is what are you hoping to accomplish with the gift? Friendship? Closure? If it's just friendship is he open to being just friends after he's seen you naked?

Sevenpointfive · Answer

somehow i imagine you'll put this song on in a skimpy little outfit then...

RoseySarah · Answer

Since it is a up and down relationship I'd say yes cause what if your feeling like getting back together again latter?

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I wouldn't. It could send mixed signals. With exes, it's better to keep a straightforward relationship or no relationship at all.

menina · Answer

No, you shouldn't. That won't allow you to move on and forget him. Besides, it can give him false hopes if he's still in love with you.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It would be nice of you to send him a gift but he might think you want to get back together with him

RealMarek · Answer

No. I would avoid mixed signals or further emotional entanglement.

m1tch3ll · Answer

no, my ex expects bday presents but i ain't obligated to buy her presents anymore thats her new mans job 😂

WhiteSandyBeach · Answer

No. Use that money to buy a toy for a poor rug rat at Christmas.

DJB72 · Answer

Depends how your relationship with him is now. If you're friends, why not. If not, why bother?

thegreenyogi · Answer

I personally wouldn't because once the relationship is over its over.

Mansearching · Answer

Depends on reason and if you're still friends. If it was a bad break up then no absolutely not.

RHK36 · Answer

Move on, meet someone new that you can give gifts to that's deserving and would appreciate it.

worldscolide · Answer

An ex is an ex for a reason. My answer would be no.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

No. It may send the wrong message, and get his hopes up of getting back together.

jeffend888 · Answer

Why is this even a question? The fact that you are 39 years old and asking this question is mind boggling to me.

Surely · Answer

Unless you would like to get back together with him. He is an Ex, for a reason.  Keep it like that!

nawtee_me · Answer

An anniversary is an anniversary…. lol but let me ask, how would you feel about getting an anniversary present for breaking up?

douride2 · Answer

If it were me I would simply skip it. After all it has been a year since the breakup.

Likes2drive · Answer

I wouldn’t bother, focus on someone else, relationships are exhausting it seems

Amarasimmons7 · Answer

Unless you two are friends or something, absolutely not!

Jennz6 · Answer

No, but it depends maybe on what it is for? Is that a sarcastic gesture?

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Yes, send him a gift. Thou wantest to be a good person, not evil.

BigDog1989 · Answer

why would you want to talk to a guy YOU broke up with

OddBeMe · Answer

If you’re not looking for a fck I wouldn’t open that pandoras box

_lexiesplanet_ · Answer

no i dont think you should because hell think your interested or miss him

Jerre · Answer

No, don’t send anything. If you do, he may think you want to get back with him.

shortster · Answer

Nope, exes are exes for a reason. Gifts only confuse the issue.

Lester102 · Answer

Honestly it depends on your motivations & how it ended but solely on the information provided i would say no.

chiragvirani · Answer

If you still consider him friend then it's ok. Otherwise don't

Bama-guy31 · Answer

No. If you’re broke up you have no obligation to send anything

Anemone978 · Answer

No.. he is an Ex, not a good friend LOL

exitseven · Answer

Paris, you need to move on.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure, if you wanna be friends with her.

Massageman · Answer

A big floral box - full of thorns? ;- )

ItsALongWayToTheTop · Answer

No, because it won't be the gift he wants.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Are you still friends and talk regularly?

really_dmb · Answer

Yes if you want him back

msc545 · Answer

Don't. Just asking for trouble if you do.

LivingExample · Answer

Stop playing Games with him and Move On!

CubaPirate · Answer

The Hell Nooooo

justabuddy · Answer

A simple happy birthday text might be best.

Lynx122 · Answer

I wouldn't.

StarWarGirl · Answer

You should not

overthinkergirl · Answer

nope

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No don't send a gift. Why would you want to do that

vishu0208 · Answer

Nope go to hell

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Do whatever you want. Be yourself

Moondog66 · Answer

No, there is no viable reason to now.

jimmy2 · Answer

Lol not sure but I let sleeping dogs alone

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