Why do people who have a long-term relationship and then get married divorce after a maximum of two years?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

I see and hear such couples all the time. They get married after ten years of dating and divorce within two years. Do they not know each other during this time? something I saw and heard. Couples who get married after meeting two or three times have a long and happy marriage. Is there nothing left to the marriage after the togetherness before marriage?

[Mahito]

It’s many reasons. Sometimes it’s their parents and family pressuring them to get married or else they will disowned them and never talk to them again. They want to keep a good relationship with their parents and siblings and relatives, so they just pick anyone sometimes Incompatibility. They don’t have the same values or ideals. They just expect a marriage to work out and don’t effort to find a person with similar values. They both act agreeable, they don't communicate, they’re not honest, and then after honey moon phase is over and the sex is the only thing they got going on they divorce. .

[HighlyVolatile]

I suspect one problem is that they expected things to change too much after marriage. Some people hyper-romanticize the post-marriage life. One thing I did with my wife when we started talking about marriage is to make sure she has very realistic expectations about it and not a happily-ever-after fairy tale concept. Thankfully she was very much a realist about it.

[HighlyVolatile]

Another thing is that some people get married without even trying to live together first. I made sure to live together with my wife first for a good long period before we got married. It's a totally different dynamic living together harmoniously than just dating, and I'd say a much greater test of a couple's compatibility than just dating together and seeing each other when they want to see each other.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

What I said included living in the same house. your relationship is the exception.

[HighlyVolatile]

I see! I can only hypothesize about it. One thing though is that I think culture has to do something with it as well, since my stable marriage with my wife isn't the exception here in Japan. Divorce rates are much lower here (although fewer people are getting married these days).

[Jamie05rhs]

They put too much pressure on themselves after getting married. They make it such a big deal and they forget to relax and have fun and just enjoy each other's company.

[driven159]

because Marriage is not the same as being in a relationship more pressure more responsibility move sharing more giving up stuff

[Anonymous]

Because they tried to fix something that was t broken to begin w.

[Iron_Man]

Because they have a bad wife that they didn’t discover before

[888theGreat]

How do you post 15 questions a day at level 7?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Huh?

[888theGreat]

You post questions all the time , I only get 4 in a day

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Sorry for bothering you with my questions. I am only allowed to ask 3 questions a day.

[EaterPeter]

They try to fix what's not broken