My boyfriend and I broke up I don't know if I should allow him back?

[sarcasticluz]

Okay long story short I broke up with him and he’s so heart broken :( the main reason why I broke up with him is I gave him to many chances not saying I’ve messed up but it seems to be more mess up on his end. Explains are like going through my phone to see text messages between me and my mother which I wouldn’t care if he went through my phone but my mother talks about personal stuff about her that’s only meant for me. He lied to me about going through my mothers text which I didn’t buy. Another one is that when I used to live with him he would push me on the road ( lived out of town from my work) not visiting my family which I stand my ground on. When I did live with him he didn’t have a job for the first four months I was with him so I was paying for everything ( no rent since he moved in with his mother but mostly food and gas plus more) the one thing that pushed me to not be with him was that his mother is talking mad shit about me and trying to hook him with other girls, and just simply not liking me being there at all (which I moved out on month one when I couldn’t handle taking care of stuff I cannot offered at the moment) Not only that but he doesn’t seem supporting of me when I want to go be a nurse :/ I’m just stuck in what to do?

[Goforit1010]

You've outlined the problems you had when you dated him, and why you broke up.

Has anything changed with him? I mean seriously? Has his behavior shown anything different now than before? Because if it hasn't, then all you're doing, is setting yourself up for more of the same stupid things he was doing before.

Ex's are an "ex" for a reason (you listed a few). Take the time now to focus on yourself. Work on your career goals. Figure out what you messed up in the relationship and how to correct that behavior. Determine what you're looking for in a guy and what traits you want. After you've figured that out, then... then try dating someone else.

Does the idea of going back to the same heartaches, difficulty, arguments, and troubles appeal to you? If not, avoid this guy like he has the plague.

[Ian69]

Listen to what your heart is saying. Why don’t you make a list of all his good points and all his bad/wrong points and then decide if you can live with all his bad/wrong points, if his good points can make up for it. In addition, ask yourself this, would you recommend this guy to one of your friends, as potential boyfriend. If you can’t it may be time to move on.

[Xoxocutekitty]

This is your description summarized. This guy:

- goes through a girls phone without asking
- his mother disrespects his girlfriend to the point of suggesting other women
- he does not contribute his share financially
- he does not support her career choices

Now, would you recommend this guy to your friends? Would you recommend this guy to a random female stranger on the internet? Does this guy sound like a boyfriend anyone wants?

[PrettyPriya]

That is a tough one. Doesn't seem like he has trust/respect for you or your privacy. If it were me... I'd not let him back in my life. Just my opinion.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No. Do not go back with him.

[In_Trance]

nope; block him and move on

[FearlessHero7]

Why hell do girls do this?

[Anonymous]

How long were you and him together