I feel bad for talking about how my boyfriend abused me. I express my anger but then I feel bad for talking badly about him. why?

[Anonymous]

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

You are used to how he manipulated you and make him out to be the good guy. So, when you talk bad about him or talk about the situation, you still have that mindset or beliefs that he’s the good guy, etc. And, you might still love him… It’s normal to still be somewhat connected to an abuser. It’s called a trauma bond.

[byrdman89]

I would say it's because you're a kind person - and they're probably are good things about him that's why you fell in love with him - we all have positive and negative traits but when he abused you he crossed the line - you are too valuable to let anyone abuse you - so yes let your anger out and you can feel sad about the loss of the relationship at the same time - hang in there it gets better

[blissinanarchy1]

Gaslighting and narcissistic behavior often leave women into believing they "deserve" the abuse, or that it's not even abuse in the first place and that you're over reacting. An effect is to make YOU seem like the abuser for sticking up for yourself.

[Alwayreckles93]

Girl don't feel bad you need to let it all out to heal yourself. I am divorce 29 and my ex cheated on me it was a toxic marriage. Best thing cut it off as soon as possible.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Because you are in love with him, but you should accept the reality and accept that what you say about him is monet likely true

[TheMajesticKing777]

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[Anonymous]

Are u silly?