Is it possible to be over someone but not be over the trauma associated with them?

[Anonymous]

i am over the idea of being with someone romantically but the idea of being linked to them in any way or seeing them in public, makes me extremely emotional and uncomfortable. It’s been 4 years and I don’t know what’s wrong with me, it’s impossible for me to even let love in because I don’t love myself and never respected myself when I was involved with this person.

[caring__1]

Guilt by association is real, whether it is something we put on ourselves or others choose to put it there. There's nothing wrong with not wishing to be associated with anything related to your past trauma. So, even if you have no romantic feelings toward that person, you'll still want to keep your distance. You don't need that constant reminder, and you don't need others mentioning associations that return you to yoiur trauma.

You may find it helpful to seek out a therapist who specializes in trauma, to weaken the hold this trauma has on you.

[In_Trance]

The first thing you need to understand is that it's not trauma; it's drama.
If you want to move on from this then make a decision and move on. Stop looking back