I need help understanding my emotions?

[Gene9]

So I fell for this guy, and recently found out that he was leading me on the whole time. He never truly had any interest in me beyond sexual attraction and it broke my heart. Now, I feel confused, because I feel sad, but also I feel resentment towards him. I do not want a future with him anymore, and I want him to feel the pain I've felt.

Was I in love with the idea of him? Of who he could be for me, while subconsciously knowing he wasn't that person? Because when I realized who he truly was, I started thinking "I would never love someone like that, who leads girls on and plays with their feelings"

So who did I love? Did I love who I thought he was, and therefore I now hate who he truly is?

I need help understanding these rocky emotions within myself.

[sassyredhead]

First off this feeling is awful. Next, I advise looking at why you loved him. What did he bring to light in you or what excited you about him? If you look at these things it will give you insight into what mindset you had while falling for him. It's hard to know how you really feel if this connection is unique to you it can heighten the reality sometimes. I have been through this myself being a hopeless romantic.

[LazerBean]

That's what happens when you let your genitals choose your partner instead of your brain. Don't involve your emotions until you've well evaluated someone.

[boggboss]

Nothing hard to understand u loved the person u believed he was in your head and once he hurt u turned that love bitter and now wish him to feel the hurt he made u feel

[Vikkrram]

But how did you came to know that he was just playing games wid you?

[Gene9]

I asked him. He made me confess my feelings for him and I asked why he made me do that, he told me he never had any interest or intention by doing so.

[Vikkrram]

He is a player then obviously

[he-takes-a-part]

Wait is crucial here