What is he trying to accomplish?

[Anonymous]

My ex (28 yr Male) and I broke up around 5 months ago after dating for 2 years, his idea. I will admit we were pretty toxic together and he said it was for our own good because we just kept arguing and we hardly saw each-other because he worked 80hrs a week and I worked full time which made things harder. I made the mistake of answering him when he texted me a month after our breakup to say he missed me yet saw me as a “friend” to which I responded I couldn’t be his friend, it was too hard. I got a new job, went through the motions and have been working on myself, trying to get over my anxious attachment. Now he started viewing my stories (we aren’t friends on social media) and he isn’t social media savvy so I doubt he knows I can see his looking lol, I blocked him for my own mental health and he went out of his way to use an old account to view them. He watched my stories EVERY SINGLE DAY LIKE CLOCKWORK but says nothing. His ego has always been his downfall and he does not know how to admit his feelings, product of being raised in a masculine no feelings type of household. But I can’t help thinking “he wouldn’t go to this extent if he didn’t care” or “maybe he’s waiting for me to notice and say something” but also “if he cared he’d say something instead of quietly lurking”… we’ve always had this constant need to be together, never stay away from each other for too long, like magnets. Any advice? 😅 I haven't spoken to him in 2 months, definitely am okay alone now, but do still care to some extent. Thank you!

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+1 y

Realistically we’re both just as busy if not busier so I know things still wouldn’t work which kinda makes me not want to reach out because I know we’re still not in an ideal place and have healing to do 😓

[DaveJord]

I'd say he's trying to remain relevant in some way to you. He knows he blew it, but it appears he hasn't given up. Yes on some level he cares, but its a little immature. I would think he wants you to notice and reach out to him. But thats the game he is playing and its why you probably are toxic together. He obviously is missing you and doesn't want to say it, but wants you to notice and reach out to him.

At the end of the day I would say ignore him, but apparently its working on some level because he's relevant enough to have yoy on here asking. I definitely would not continue forward with any false hope of having a pure friendships. You to aren't friends your not ever going to just be friends. If you don't have closure on this relationship then do want your heart tells you to do. But don't get upset or blame anyone else but yourself if blows up into a flaming train wreck later.

[kylee2437]

Men always care when it’s too late. I’m right there with you. One of my exes that broke up with me 4 years ago sends me videos on Instagram all the time. They want what they can’t have. I think you need to just let it go all together. He should’ve cared when it mattered.