Why do guys come back in your life when they did not want you in the beginning?

[Justneedtokno]

Like I was not even thinking about this guy and out of no where they are telling “you are the one they want to be with” wtf you didn’t want me year ago and now.

I had thoughts of “what if” but they all turn into this sinking gut feeling telling me no. The I soon get irritated/ stressed about it all. I don’t think I can get over the rejection in first place.

Am I wrong?

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And before anyone starts. No I don’t think I’m just this dream girl. Im not all that special. Which is why Im weirded out now that he around

[Anonymous]

An ex of mine who is actually a lesbian came back into my life multiple times, mostly because she needed somewhere to stay, a ride to work, money, food, the Internet or a wedding date or sometimes i think just for company. I was happy enough f*cking her every morning and night until she got back on her feet and decided she isn't straight after all and off she goes. It's funny because when she comes back she's bending over backwards to please me in bed, blowjobs, anal, outdoors, dressing, sex toys up nothing is off limits and then mid way to end all that stops, she's like just get on top do your thing and go back to sleep or I'm not feeling it just jerk off over my ass or tits or I'm getting a shower before work so you've 5 minutes to jerk off and get out. She leaves me without a word and has a new girlfriend.

[Justneedtokno]

Congratulations but that not the same

[Opinion Owner]

Men and women come back to exs I guess for different reasons. Men for easy sex, women for free stuff.

[Guy13]

Yes there is a difference and it lies in permanence of relationship

[Justneedtokno]

Continue…?

[DizzyDesii]

They’re out of options. I dont know anyone who goes back believing they made the wrong choice 😂 Like just say you outta options cause i’ll be honest about that in a heartbeat 🤣

[Con29]

@DizzyDesii can you pm please?

[Justneedtokno]

It makes more sense. I just think we are better as friends he mess that up by liking me

[Con29]

What can do about my situation

[Justneedtokno]

@Con29 ?

[Summeroflove]

This depends on the guy and there is women who do it too. Some people don’t want water until the well runs dry.

I figure personally if someone really wants me they will be interested in me and if I’m interested in someone then I just am.

Now sometimes maybe someone was not really into someone and later feelings did develop or they changed their mind. I wouldn’t say that’s a bad thing per say.

But yeah there is some very overly sexual men and some women out there. Better to stay away from them

[DoctorSex]

Uurrgh, there are 2 types of men in this world.

Thinking men and feeling men.
He sounds like a feeler man. Yuk.

They're like this. They give the rest of us a really bad name. He's horny and bored.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Sixgunsound]

It's the same phenomenon where women in their mid 30's suddenly notice the nerd with a pot belly who they glanced right over in high school now has a great job in IT and a sports car and paid off his house suddenly isn't so bad after all.

[Justneedtokno]

Nope not in this case I’m the nerd I was rotc and choir.

[Sixgunsound]

Well damn. All you need to complete your collection is code club or morning update or drama😅 so you were rejected by this person in high school and now they want you once they had their manhoe years out of the way? It's not impossible that the phenomenon could present in reverse of how it does traditionally with the increasing feminization of boys and destruction of positive masculinity. It is entirely possible this person could have been socialized to adopt traditionally female dating strategies.

[Justneedtokno]

I feel like women had to adapt to what’s going on right now I don’t think we ever wanted to be men. We just wanted stability and being able to take care of ourselves just in case and preparing if a man doesn’t do it for us and I feel like that’s fair we’re not all raised to believe men are just gonna jump to take care of us, even though they don’t even know us that’s unfair to y’all.

[Sixgunsound]

That's actually a fair statement. One of the places feminism went wrong was assuming women want the same things men do in the sane way for the same reasons. Marxists see us all as interchangeable faceless nameless drones, so it is unsurprising that that feminist leadership would be unable to see that most women in real life don't want what they are selling. You are also correct that nobody owes anybody else anything, man or woman. How the games of house and life are played is both parties must bring something of agreed upon equal value to the table, for the entire relationship. It's been my observation that many women today think that 'I'm young hot and fertile' from late teens mid 30's is enough to see them through 80 years of life. It's not. A ot of men seem to think I'm young buffed and have a stick so that should be good enough. It's not.

[Justneedtokno]

I think the war on feminism is wrong because it’s not attacking the real problem. Because it’s hard for some women like myself to even identify with a certain group, because of other characteristics that are not even. Tailored to that group.

Like I stated before all four women getting educations, women, owning businesses, women, ownership (land), having autonomy over her own body, and trying to make it for their children if they have them. This is the original plan, for feminism, there’s also womanism.

[Sixgunsound]

The lefts war on women isn't a war o feminism per se, it is more a war on a demographic which has served its purpose in their eyes and can now be replaced by the next victim group they need to court for votes.

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah, we’ve already discovered that the next fight is the unfair rules about reproductive rights that’s normal. It’s not victimizing per se, but it’s crazy how a lot of people are men that don’t know anything about women’s bodies want to make rules about them

[Sixgunsound]

A lot of women want to make rules about custody and child support, and don't protest the draft or divorce rape, what's your point?

[Justneedtokno]

I’m saying if she can prevent it in the beginning, why go down that road

[Sixgunsound]

Prevent guys coming back into her life? It's easy just tell them to go away.

[Justneedtokno]

No, it would be even easier if there’s no children involved

[Sixgunsound]

That's why being more selective about who to consciously plan to have children with is a better strategy than the oops system that seems to dominate these days.

[Justneedtokno]

That would be the case, but that’s not always the case

[Sixgunsound]

It could be if people of childbearing age were incentives to make the right choice and punished for making the wrong choice. Right now, people are incentivized by the welfare system to have unsustainable children even though the current political and business leaders for the most part are involved at least tangentially in committing genocide to get population numbers under control. Here's a thought: shut off the welfare system and you shut off the incentive to keep having massive amounts of undmsustainable babies that are allegedly so bad for the climate.

[Justneedtokno]

I can honestly say getting on the welfare system is not an incentive. Nobody wants that it’s not helpful as you think it is and on top of it you sit there and say oh people are trying to make the right choices or whatever when they do, they go through the regular route of meeting someone then they get married but shit don’t always work out. Those are the people I’m talking about.

[Justneedtokno]

We’re talking about the ones that were raised properly who aren’t doing anything willing to just date and be in a real relationship and actually thought they were in love had a baby or whatever the case may be getting married shit did not work out

[Justneedtokno]

Yes, but I see you all love to punish those

[Sixgunsound]

Who all loves to punish those what?

[Alex8736]

more or less they were more attracted to someone else and by knowing you had feelings in the past they are now looking at you as the rebound which anyone would be a fool to give in after knowing someone is being treated as a consolation prize

[AmeerX]

I think they either realized they made a mistake trying to find someone better or they thought what the hell let's just fuck it and settle down with her

[Pegases]

Same reason women do. Sometimes because they are bored, for attention, or sex.

[Wiredone]

He's probably using you as a go between or fill in. He got dumped so he thought he'd try getting back with you until he finds someone else

[Jamie05rhs]

Did you have sex with him before? If so, he probably misses the booty.

[Z1pTD]

Because they're either lonely or feeling nostalgic (or bc they be strange like that)

[LazerBean]

I would assume desperation.

[msc545]

boredom usually

[FilmGuy93]

Opinions change. Life situations change.

[Luopio27]

Never gone after anyone I rejected.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because women never do this.🙄🤣🤣🤣

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t personally the personal I be thoughts of what if but never any contact

[legalboxers]

stupidity