Guys, have you ever remained in a relationship with a girl but waited for her to end it?

[Bethany22]

You remained your old punctual, reliable self, and you continued to initiate dates, but you secretly hoped that she would break up with you, because you felt too uncomfortable breaking up with her yourself?

[Leopard23]

I've done that knowing there was no future with them. Either because they have a history of disloyalty with other guys or she feels sue could do better or she was or is cheating or she wanted commitment and ultimately I didn't feel she was a good bet for commitment. Many reasons.

It's often better to let the woman do the breaking up. They walk away feeling good about themselves and a sense of validation. They are less bitter that way, he'll hath no fury like a woman scorned is no lie. I dumped a woman once who cheated on me, she did not take it well even though she was planning to leave me for another guy. I was supposed to be miserable after the break up begging to get her back drinking away my sorrows not dating her younger sister.

[TruthBringer]

No.

I ended all the relationships with my exes. Simply because I saw that the relationship was going no where and they weren't investing as much into it as they should be. Or they were toxic and continued to be toxic due to their unresolved issues (my fault for getting with them, in the first place). I ended it all, but not before giving them more chances than I should have to do better. Too bad, they didn't make good use of the chances. And now they have to witness seeing me be in a happy relationship with someone else who is doing a much better job in good a decent partner than they are.

[Guy13]

Yes but it was more like a dual extinguishing. It was like letting the cold run its course but it was not ugly. It just wasn't "going to marry you one day" relationship. Still friends with shared friends kind of thing.

[FunkyMonkee]

No but, that's usually what happened. Of the 7 I've had, I can only recall one that I ended.
1. She started cheating on me and then went back to the guy she had before me.
2. I lost contact with her shortly after we started seeing each other because she moved to New York.
3. She went back to her ex but, what I didn't know was that she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown when she was with me and until 3 years ago, didn't even remember that we WERE together.
4. I just didn't feel that much for her so, I broke up with her after about 2 months.
5. The night we started seeing each other we made plans to get together the next day so, I went to her place, she wasn't home, so I waited. When she finally came back, she said she's moving away! I never heard from her again.
6. We went out for our first and only date and, by the end of the night, it was evident we weren't quite right for each other. We broke up as friends but I never heard from her again.
7. We were together for 10 years but, in the last year of three of that, she'd been cheating on me!

[smashleyy]

I don’t think everything would remain the exact same if he was unhappy. but from what i seen most men don’t leave relationships. they seem to be more comfortable than women to just remain as is regardless if they aren’t happy or being fulfilled anymore. I think that’s the main reason women asking for a divorce is at a higher rate than men. if you’ve begged and pleaded a man to show up differently for you, stop certain behaviours, or respect certain boundaries and he has not done it It’s not because it’s not clicking. he does not want to be there but he’s not going to leave, you have to

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't be surprised if they did because thats what I did in most of my relationships. If they were tolerable but i lost attraction, i’d sabotage it til they ended it. If they were a douche i just straight up ended it (minus the first boyfriend)

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling g the guy I'm seeing is doing this. I honestly believe he doesn't want to hurt me but is hoping I'll end it so he doesn't have to. The reason I think this is because there's lack of interest in my and he isn't as reliable etc.

[MysteriousDarkness]

If you want the other person to end the relationship to me it means you want the relationship to end but are to much of a coward to end it yourself. Being romantic, loving, caring, emotionally supportive, helping with chores etc and wanting the other person to end the relationship is like getting all your work done at your job and secretly wanting the boss the fire you instead of quitting even thoughyou have been stressed out for months because of the job.

[Tyrael]

Guys very rarely end relationships. Just look at the divorce statistics, over 70% over divorce proceedings are initiated by the wife. You could say that just means she wasn't happy, but in reality it's most likely they both weren't happy.

[WellGreetingsISay]

Yeah, to be honest I wanted her to end it. I did end up breaking up with her after years, but she kept being emotionally unstable. Lots of suicide threats and I felt sorry for her. After four years I couldn't take it anymore.

[Pegases]

Not necessarily waited for her to end it, but waited for her to do something that I didn't like, and make that the final straw irregardless of how menial what she did might have been.

[Kaneki05]

I'll admit yes though I would never do that now. Now I would just say how it is.
No wants to be the bad guy but there is no sense to dragging things out.

[OfMiceandMen]

I've never done that. I think that would be cruel to drag things out hoping she would break it off someday. It would bother me that I am wasting her time/life.

[lightbulb27]

yes. I learned I had to respect myself and take initiative. There's a lot going into that thinking and maturity to make those decisions and take action. Self respect is one.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Never happened to me, but a lot of times I wish I gave second thoughts before going in a relationship with them.

[Slay256]

This has never happened to me but if I were to break up with a girl it would be me breaking up with her, I wouldn't be too uncomfortable to let her know this should end.

[Danisgivingit]

Sure. It’s always hard to hurt someone’s feelings. So if she decides to end it, it saves me from potentially causing unwanted tears and emotion

[Mansearching]

Hell no. If I was unhappy, I'd tell her f-off and be gone.

[Sparkie460]

No I never punished myself like that. If it wasn't working out I ended the relationship

[LiamJHayden]

No. If it isn't working, then I will end it.

[loveslongnails]

Never. When it's over, it's over and I get out.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope I'd never do that if I'm not happy I'm won't be in it