Has anyone took antidepressants to help with a break up?

[Anonymous]

4 weeks ago I came out of a 7 year relationship, he’s cut almost all contact and has really been acting like a man I didn’t even know. He’s done everything he swore he would never do to me, which hurts. For the past 4 weeks I’ve been begging and messaging but decided to just let him go now. But it’s so hard, it literally hurts, I have no appetite, I’m constantly tired yet I can’t sleep. I find a lack of enjoyment in anything and everything, I can’t concentrate he’s literally on my mind 24/7 from the moment I wake until I eventually fall asleep. And even when I wake I’ve had dreams about him. I’m 32 and never took antidepressants though I have been depressed at 18 and I came out of it myself with no help, and I have suffered with generalised anxiety disorder all my life which I’ve never took anything for. But I have children and I really think they aren’t seeing the best in me right now, and I’m not even enjoying being around them, I’m irritable and snappy. I was thinking I could take them to ease the first few months without him, then hopfully come off once I’ve slightly got used to him not being part of my life anymore. Has anyone done this before? Did it help with obsessive thoughts of them? I have spoke with the doctor and she has prescribed me Citalopram? Will this help with how I’m feeling in anyway?

[Anonymous]

You don't need them to get over a breakup. Take them and you will go through the same thing again once you stop the antidepressants. It's best just to grieve and cry and take one day at a time. Try and get out of the house as much as possible.

In some ways I know what you are going through. I was devastated when my ex ended things with me. I begged and begged him for months on end to come back but he never did I was depressed and crying a lot and I truly missed him and wondered how I was going to live without him. It made it harder knowing I was also pregnant with his baby at the time. It crushed me when he blocked me everywhere. Eventually over time I started to heal and not miss him as much.

You will be okay. It's going to hurt like hell for some time but you will be okay

[lightbulb27]

no, felt like needed them. I dont like drugs. drugs are only good to help you keep going in your daily routing of life (work and such) until you can heal. drugs in a way suspend you where you are at... that's no good.

but I don't take them, the pain is good, suffering is good... it's fuel. from that, you grow. if you don't grow... you repeat.

so Id rather suffer.

I didn't read all...

[Asker]

Yeh I dislike drugs too and I’ve never took anything that was prescribed, and I’m even hesitant about taking those. If that’s how they work then there’s no point me putting how I feel on hold just to come off them and have it all hit me. I guess I should ride it out but it’s going to be hard 😢

[lightbulb27]

they are a crutch and that's it. I recall woman who took them and said she needed them. separation/loss hurts especially when the questions are unanswered and there's confusion. No shame from me.
parking kids with grandparents a good idea and get better. it's hard to keep doing everything when you are hurt.
solution is to let go and grow from it. it's hard when you are in it though...
time off from work is a good idea. but not to sit and fume, but to rest, exerrcise, meditate,... all things that are therapy.

[molonski2]

NO , and an emotional separation is NEVER a reason to turn to script drugs , its an absolute ludicrous suggestion.

[es20490446e]

Won't be more effective just dating someone else?