How do I deal with someone not wanting anything to do with me?

[mattclark242]

how do I deal with someone not wanting anything to do with you?

I know it a dumb questions

But I keep wanting to care about someone a girl or I bother her. sometime it other girls. I want care about my ex or someone or something.

Is caring weakness?

So I just want to see if my ex was ok and ask if we could go back to being friends On FB.

what wrong with that?

So I lie to her and we broke up cause she want me do thing I do not want do and I want help her bit not in they way she want.

She seem to be going threw the same thing as me with mental health and try say out jail. trying not have emotional outburst.

Updates

11 mo

she want me be respect full of her wishes and not interfere with anything. she seem to be manipulative.

[provokeesmokee]

You leave them the fuck alone.

And if you find yourself posting cringe shit like this online, and genuinely believe your words, consider therapy.

Because it isn't normal to be this obsessive over someone who is clearly requesting you respect her boundaries.

It is abnormal and it is clearly making BOTH of you suffer. Her because you're being creepy and you because you can't seem to stop yourself.

It's okay, obsessiveness is a thing, it isn't often something you can't learn to deal with. However YOU are the one who needs to deal with it.

It is not HER or ANY OTHER PERSON'S task to deal with it for you, or deal with the fallout of your inaction.

Respect her boundaries (they're not wishes, they're a hard stop for you).

[rafaklabae]

Well I can talk from personal experience. It's really not that simple to just stop caring about someone even if you like them romantically or as a friend. Everyone shows their true colors and the truth about their intentions or thoughts for you will be visible after a while. If it looks like she doesn't care then you should just top talking to her a d cut off every form of communication. Then you should write every little thing that made you angry or upset with her behavior towards you and once you have all the negative thing about her in front of you I think you will see it all clearly. You will stop thinking that much about her after a while. And then she is going to be someone you once knew.

[Adam1978]

You don't have anything to do with them. Simple you grant them their wish. Unless that goes against some other more important factor like work or getting money they own you or something like that.

[mattclark242]

they do not own me any money. I did my best to give her the money I use to say I give or own to her. I do not have a kid with her to have to give her money. I just wish she get the thing she need from the kids dad and get a job and a car and be safe and stop depending on guy to buy her thing for her self and or her kids that she need. She need stay way from her ex if he hit her. I just wish she be happy.

[DiegoO]

Part of caring about someone is listening. If you don't listen and respect what someone says, you can not say you care for that person in particular

[NotTacocaT6969]

You have to learn how to let go of people who have let go of you.


Continuing to hold on does nothing but hurt you and annoy them which hurts you even more.


Accept the fact that they have let go and move on from them.

[NotTacocaT6969]

In response to your edit, if she is manipulating you on top of everything else, she’s bad for you.

That might be hard to hear, but if she was any good for you there would be no issues like that.

[DextroShade]

If she won't reciprocate, you need to ghost her and find someone who will.

[imfreeze95]

Move on find someone new. Someone better who appreciates you.

[Clyde_123]

You move on.

[Kkoalalita]

Move on