Been seeing this girl for a couple of months, we spend time together weekly and sometimes more than once a week. She said she doesn't have feelings, but is open to them if they come. That's alright honestly, not a big deal, being friends with her is still awesome and I value our friendship a lot.
I'm just a tad confused. Last week we started being physical. Cuddling, holding hands, long hugs, literally anything that isn't sex (which I'm fine with too). We've even talked about kissing, and she said it would be nice but doesn't want to hurt me emotionally, but she can see it in the future if she's convinced it wouldn't hurt me. Our love languages are physical touch, so it's a really nice thing to experience. These are all good things, and I'm thankful to share them with her. We even made plans for a movie night at her place so we can have a lot of physical touch with each other which is super exciting. Physical touch like this despite not being in a relationship is fine with me, so it's not like its an unhealthy thing. She says she wishes we could embrace each other for 10 hrs, because that's how much she enjoys it. When I was at her house over the weekend, we had a long hug before I left and at one point I pulled away so I could get up but she pulled me in so I couldn't.
I just can't understand why someone would want to have this with someone who they don't have feelings for, because these are very intimate things to do with another person. It's not like this is something I'm pushing for either, whenever we've cuddled she's been the one to initiate it. I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts, I'm just confused.
I'm just a tad confused. Last week we started being physical. Cuddling, holding hands, long hugs, literally anything that isn't sex (which I'm fine with too). We've even talked about kissing, and she said it would be nice but doesn't want to hurt me emotionally, but she can see it in the future if she's convinced it wouldn't hurt me. Our love languages are physical touch, so it's a really nice thing to experience. These are all good things, and I'm thankful to share them with her. We even made plans for a movie night at her place so we can have a lot of physical touch with each other which is super exciting. Physical touch like this despite not being in a relationship is fine with me, so it's not like its an unhealthy thing. She says she wishes we could embrace each other for 10 hrs, because that's how much she enjoys it. When I was at her house over the weekend, we had a long hug before I left and at one point I pulled away so I could get up but she pulled me in so I couldn't.
I just can't understand why someone would want to have this with someone who they don't have feelings for, because these are very intimate things to do with another person. It's not like this is something I'm pushing for either, whenever we've cuddled she's been the one to initiate it. I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts, I'm just confused.
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