Should I Consider Doing Once a Week face time Again with my EX?

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We Were in a Nearly Four Year LDR and We had Face Time Nearly Every Day. I Broke it Off Months ago But it Seems we are Getting along a Bit Better. I stopped Venting. Should I Google Chat Cam with him (We do Google Chat now only) at Least Once A Week to Keep the Friendship? I still DO Plan On going to Visit him and his Family. Any Thoughts? xxoo

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

So I will give you my absolute honest thoughts, which will probably seem hard for you, but I'll give them anyway:

You've been in a LDR relationship for 4 years, and I'm assuming you've only met in real life maybe a few times? If ever. I really don't know. Either way, I think these kinds of things are probably hard, and I think if it was truly meant to be, you would've never broken up to begin with, and you probably both would've been officially together in real life by now.

I am a firm believer in whoever is meant for you will be for you, and it will go smoothly if they are. I was once like you and a lot of other people, trying so hard to believe in a relationship I wanted so badly, getting to know someone long distance, and believing the path had to be God's will. Only to find out in time that it wasn't. And I'm not saying your situation is an unsuccess, I'm just saying that I believe if things were really meant to work out, they would have by now.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Unless you envision yourself getting married to him, staying involved just holds you back and discourages you from moving forward. Either run back to him with open arms or turn away and don’t look back.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

Do you both intend to meet other people within the next year? If so…how would the new person be placed?
in other words…if you would like to meet a new boyfriend. how would you tell your new boyfriend about someone you FaceTime with weekly.
I have very good friends…but they are not male and if I have male acquaintances…I don’t FaceTime weekly…we may check in from time to time to catch up…my SO is my priority.
will this ex be a priority over your future romantic love?
And vice versa to him who may have the intention to date others?

on the other hand…if you two have the intention to get back together… do you know the issues the break apart in the first place and can that be compromised to the satisfaction of both parties to reconcile to start over…?

Emelina · Accepted Answer

Ask him if he would like to face time with you? And see what he thinks, if yes that is great, if not then accept his request and move on bc there's a good reason for his response. Also, you had your reasons to why you broke up with him and may be is best to remain friends until each of you gets a new relationship going. Hope for the best for both of you. Cheers 🍁

Leapfrog00 · Answer

yeah, maybe. Him seeing you again though may bring out some feelings that are still lingering. And I would make sure to tell him that your intentions are just friendship, so he doesn't get misled. It's not hard for us guys!

I'm sure he would like to see your face again. I dated a girl named Anna once and she moved, and we did the long distance thing for a while. It can be a challenge.

I can see why you would break it off. I'd rather have someone to hold right there in front of me. When you do see him again, he'll probably be grateful to see you! Good luck!

Likes2drive · Answer

LDRs never seem to work unless one is actually going to relocate to the other and not spend so long just video chatting, usually someone has to make a move and commit to moving to the other. I guess you’ve met in person at some point. You already had issues with him so it probably won’t work. By continuing to talk with him it gives you both hope and prolonging the inevitable when you could be using the time to find someone else. You really have no idea what he is doing since you live in different countries

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

You are nuttier than a snickers bar however if you want to GCM him go for it but if you tells you to go pound sand because you broke up with him it’s on you.

Did you two break up on somewhat good terms?

Listen to your heart on this one.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Yeah, but googlechat/facetime/whatever him AND his S. O. so she sees she has no reason to be wondering your intentions. You like wine? The three of you agree to buy the same bottle of something, make the same cheese tray and have a remote wine tasting together. No wine, okay fine whatever, you get the intent. If you're going to be a friend, be a real friend and include his S. O. in the plans.

WalnutButter · Answer

I just learned from you that Hangouts is gone. I hate when Google does that. Oh, and it's not Meetup, that's a site for singles to meet at events.

Should I Consider Doing Once a Week face time Again with my EX?

No, don't get caught up in long distance stuff like that. There are tons of guys just down the road from you.

nawtee_me · Answer

If you are still friends and are thinking about getting back together then yes... If you are just friends then wouldn't a phone call do just fine? any reason for the facetime? And, if you are not even friends then yes only if you need to cuss at him and want to do it in person... lol

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

are you and him comfortable do a video call or its just for the sake of friendship? if both feel good about it than yes do it, if its can strengthen your friendship, otherwise if weekly vc seems too awkward for you just dont.

RingOfFire · Answer

I am not clear on your background and the LDR relationship? Have you actually met him in person? If you went for 4 years and never met him I would say forget it. It's a shallow and meaningless relationship and a waste of time.

Sixgunsound · Answer

No. Once it's over it should not be a consideration. It sounds like you are not done yet. That is unhealthy.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I guess it depends on how you left things. If it was amicable overall, then you may be able to start off as friends again and see where it takes you.

belle_kai · Answer

Why? You're not together anymore. This stops you from healing and moving on. If you plan ti get back with him then do so but remember why you stopped seeing him in the first place

Curious_teen07 · Answer

Go for it, but both your partners, if any, should know, and dont talk about your shared memories

humanearth · Answer

Why? You said your done with him and yet you keep talking to him. I thought you learned your lessen. Brake it off for good. No more communication

SadyConfused1998 · Answer

What's the reason they are an ex? One of you a cheater, not compatible with each other.  They say once an ex, always an ex

Truthatanycost · Answer

This is just your tendency to invite drama into your life through a fear of peace...

itsalyssaagain · Answer

If you see yourself getting back together one day, then sure. If not, you shouldn’t because it will hurt you in the long run.

spartan55 · Answer

Don't see the point. Lots of effort for very little reward.

RHK36 · Answer

Only if you're doing the same with other friends. If y'all are just friends then he shouldn't get extra attention, it'll end up as mixed messages.

DextroShade · Answer

An ex is not your friend. If you aren't considering getting back together you need to move on, because getting you back is the only reason he is still talking to you.

RavVid · Answer

I'm interested in the stopped venting aspect. What were you doing/venting about?

douride2 · Answer

He is your ex> Unless you hope or plan on getting back together why waste your time. It would be better to move on.

exitseven · Answer

To me it is like cutting the dogs tail off a little bit at a time so it does not hurt so much.

Massageman · Answer

Planning a visit. OK- that takes one call - - - - -

DarkLegacy · Answer

That is probably not a good idea. Will he have moved on.

KatherineJ · Answer

I have to admit that I don’t know how to answer this one. I mean it’s a tough situation.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Yes. Ðere’s noþing like rapping wið a comrade-in-arms!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What made you pissed off at him in the first place?

Christoff92 · Answer

Can if you like. Depending on the relationship now just being friends 😊

In_Trance · Answer

Don't

SigmaNiggeh · Answer

Why did you breakup in the first place? If he was an asshole than no. If something else I would say definitely.

itsme_Somiya · Answer

I think it's not a good idea, past are past we only need to look forward for living

Nirghata_Vrishaghata · Answer

Ex? Don’t waste time.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I have no idea what that is.

Jazzy54 · Answer

It depends. Was your break up amiable or ugly?

Justneedtokno · Answer

Reconnecting with an ex

dudeinohio · Answer

No. Move on. Find someone local.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

No I wouldn't. But I guess what was the break up over. Usually one an ex always an ex to me..

OddBeMe · Answer

Doesn’t ever seem to work.

Kathy1983 · Answer

No they’ll think their an chance. I go No Contact.

TrillXHippy · Answer

If you ended on good terms then yeah

AllAloneInTheWorld · Answer

I wouldn't

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why?

Pterodon · Answer

Fuck no

msc545 · Answer

sure why not?

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