Should you block your exes?

[PewDieCry]

I have struggled to heal from some of the people i have dated. Everytime I block them, I feel bad and undo it shortly afterwards.

Some of my exes truly deserve to be blocked and they are. Others maintained respect for me afterwards but wanted to be friends. Then there's some where I want to cut them off but I don't have the guts.

I have never had any successful friendships with any of my exes and a part of me wants to block every single one of them this week. I never used to delete photos or anything that linked back to any of them. I never tossed out their belongings. Never removed them on my socials. It wasn't that I thought I couldn't find better but I felt bad about moving on too quickly or discarding them like they meant nothing to me.

I now believe that this mentality is more damaging than freeing.

Recently I went on a date with a guy who felt really entitled to having sex with me despite how much I said no. He disrespected my boundaries yet I feel like the bad guy for wanting to cut him off. I still haven't blocked him

I really want to block every single one of them but I lack the courage. Your advice is appreciated as I often struggle to trust my own judgement.

Also, is it okay to block without any warning?

[nolookingbackx]

I think there's nothing wrong with blocking people. Oftentimes it's justified and sometimes even necessary. If somebody has been abusive towards you, it's good for your own safety. One user already mentioned the no contact rule and there is nothing more effective. Sometimes you might simply want to forget someone and it's also okay to cut them off. It looks like we're similar to ech other. I've never been taught to stand up for myself. I've been taught to always be nice and helpful. Nobody cared for my opinion at home since I was a kid. I was supposed to listen and do what I was told to do. It's one of the worst things parents can do to their children. In my adult life and earlier, I ended up being a people pleaser. I used to be unable to respect myself. Saying "no" always seemed to be too harsh and impolite, even in endangering situations. I can't count how many times I've been used and how much I hated myself at the end of the day. The truth is that nobody's going to respect you if you don't do it yourself. There is maybe 1% of people that will actually appreciate you for who you are and be gentle enough not to harm you and use you, seeing that you can't refuse them if they ask you for anything. You have to learn to love yourself first and the fact that taking care of yourself in the first place isn't selfish. It is normal and healthy. Listen to your heart and trust your own judgement. We, highly sensitive people, can feel much more and our intuition often tells us very important things, but the problem is that we silence it and ignore our inner voice. Keep in touch with yourself. These people don't care how they make you feel, don't count on them. You shouldn't ever blame yourself for doing the right thing. If you blocked someone for a reason, leave it this way and don't look back. And, by the way, friendships with exes never really work out. Live for the future, be strong and surround yourself with positive people. This opinion comes from someone who went through quite a lot, including toxic relationships.

[kylee2437]

I think it depends on how the relationship end on whether or not they should be. I blocked an ex that was abusive to me because I felt like that was the only way to mean business that he’s no longer allowed in my life. It’s called the “no contact” rule and with that rule you do need to block them.

[piblo99]

Blocking and cutting people off feels mean but it's one of the best ways I've found to remove negativity from my life. It's improved my quality of life and productivity and happiness immensely. you have to look out for yourself and your own mental health! I have all my exes blocked. Not saying everyone should block all of them though i guess it just depends on the ex!

Yeah it's fine to block without warning i think just depends. some people may deserve a warning and some don't. some of them might not even care either way.

[nolookingbackx]

Great advice!

[Paris13]

Sock and Block if Needed to Move on. If NEEDS TO BE DONE, hun. Welcome to Gag and Best of Luck. xxoo

[Anonymous]

Just because I share my number with my dates or online in dating apps, I change the number sometimes. Or is I start a new time of my lif like new work. Simply because it's annoying to block people or embarrassing when people write and you don't know who it is. Important people get my number and whoever doesn't contact me or answer me for more than half a year, I delete from my address book anyway.

[Akam93]

I block them for a certain amount of time. Then as time goes on I unblock them.

[Avicenna]

if you need to

[Iron_Man]

Nobody should be blocked