Hello,
I'm 27. I dated this guy almost 3 years ago for like 6/7 months. I knew his family and friends, I was SO in love with him.
He broke it off with me cause he was still into his ex.
Long story short, we still hung out on occasion and hooked up on and off up until about a year ago.
I was still fully in love with him and he for sure was using me as his booty call. So I said I couldn't do that anymore. He apologized, asked me out to *talk about it *, made plans with me and then blew me off saying he was busy at work but "couldn't be bothered to let me know".
So i said 👍. And haven't spoken to him in a year.
BUT I SWEAR they know when you're doing well. I started dating this awesome guy a few months ago who has really made me feel special and is putting in the effort.
But today, I woke up from a text from this ex. I didn't have his # saved but I knew it was him. Apologizing and asking me out on a *real date*. I blocked him asap.
I know it's a no. I cannot put myself through that again. I went through literal years of emotional torment over this man and am finally being treated well by someone else.
But my dilemma is, how do I stop thinking about him?
I don't try to. I don't really even consciously think of him often. But i STILL up until a couple weeks ago, dream about him. And it's always one of those things that I don't want to hear from him but I do. It was for sure an addiction on my end.
I blocked him and I'm in no way planning to see him or ruin what I have going now. But it's made me sick to my stomach and sad all over again. How can I finally get over this guy that I should be (and always think I am) long over?
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Ahh it's a simple fix. All you gotta do is think about all the bad shit he did to you and how he blew you off, treated you bad, Literally took advantage of you for sex like you're some object just to please himself while you were in love and emotionally hurting. Think about all of that and none of the good times you guys had. All the good memories you had with him. Block that shit out of yo mu fucka head. And then think about how this new guy makes you feel. How he makes you feel special and how you're happy. Ask yourself If you'd really waste what you have now to go back to a guy who tormented you for years.
Do that everytime you think about your ex and give it time and you'll forget it🤔😌
Even 24 hours later i am able to realize how grateful I am for my current situation.
I'd be a fool to go back to this man (even if I was single). But even more so to lose someone who has from day one been prioritizing me
Well there you go. it was probably just a moment you had
Hurry block every one of his numbers your so good don't ruin it!
He is the same loser in love with his ex!
Girl power you got this! Glad your not going back