I just wanted to find love and acceptance. Why was it so hard for me to find it all this time?

[Sweetsurprize]

😞 I just don't get it. My neighbor was even a single mother and yet she was able to find someone, get married and even have a child with them. My ex-fiance's wife was also a single mother for some time, but she quickly found someone and they now have a child together and have been with each other over 10 years.

I don't get it because I am smart, kind, beautiful (like I'm not ugly or anything), well educated, etc. And I was the same way back then too! .. So why can't I get anyone to consider marrying me and having a family with me? I only got proposed to ONCE, but I said no, because I didn't feel he was really the right guy. And then I even took a long break from dating to focus on myself and before you know it, I'm 39. What gives? ? !

My last ex just dumped me a few weeks ago because of stupid, shallow reasons when he was the one who said that we should try our best in the relationship! Ugh.. 😡

[exitseven]

Okay- you almost got married once. You are a wonderful person and eventually you will find somebody. I know this sounds like BS but ask people that are married and the majority will tell you that it was not a seamless process.

[Sweetsurprize]

Yeah, but I would've have been married to someone I knew I truly didn't want (a divorcee with a child). That would have been one hell of a relationship in my opinion. I already was having a hard time dealing with that relationship from the get-go, to be MARRIED to that? With his anger issues and drug, alcohol and bad financial issues? Um, no thanks.

So I waited further to "find myself" and after a few years, I found an Aunt's Boy who drove a Beemer and was also quite judgmental, to a friends with benefits situation, to a loser who lived with his parents at 40 and was ALSO heavily a Papa's boy who was also judgmental like his shit didn't stink.

Oh Lord lol.

[exitseven]

I ne er really thought I was much of a prize but I managed to find somebody awesome. Sometimes it boils down to dumb, stupid luck.

[exitseven]

I like your name by the way

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Billlewis]

Based on what I know of you, you're a great catch, and I'm sure you'll meet the right guy soon.

[Sweetsurprize]

Thank you. You don't know how much your answer just touched me.

[Billlewis]

Oh, I believe that just as surely as I believe the sun will rise tomorrow:)

[AnnaSorokin]

Unless you want to find a random man, it's very simple. I am 36 years old and now I just want to find someone who is motivated and won't betray me.

[msc545]

Men no longer feel safe getting married because of the laws we have and bias in the courts. This is NOT your fault.

[Sweetsurprize]

If that was true, I'd see WAY less men with rings on their finger trotting around little ones at the store. But maybe you do have a point. SOME men like to take their time, while others, I've noticed ARE still very traditional and act accordingly.

[shortster]

You are spending time with the wrong guys.

[Sweetsurprize]

Well duh lol, now I know that. But how was I supposed to know they were the wrong guys? Unless they gave off some red flags that I didn't like at the beginning. But also some weren't relationships but just hook ups because I wasn't that attracted to them. I know I know, that was bad of me, but it took two and they said yes to that so..

[shortster]

You need to look for qualities that you want in a husband and not qualities that you want in a boyfriend.

[Sweetsurprize]

Well I didn't know they were different. That's interesting. I thought Boyfriend was just an informal husband, but thank you.