How to move on easily and forget about my ex?

[Alxve]

So me and my girlfriend had been dating for 4 months and she said we werent perfect because we had so much conflicts. We haven't talked so many days it feels worse than anything. I cried last night thinking about her so much. My health has been worse. My cousin gone and asked her how she was she said "She is better health without me..." It hurts so much. Is there anyway to stop thinking about her? Any motivational quotes or ideas?

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You can't move on easily when a meaningful relationship ends.

2. You can't forget someone and you shouldn't. I still remember the girl who had my attention in 1970!

3. The first question is whether your attachment to this girl was healthy. After four months of dating, there should be some feelings of attachment, some emotional connection, BUT most people are not in love at that point.

4. Was this your first relationship? First girlfriend? First kiss? Did you have sex? If so, was she your first sexual partner? The first time you break up, it is more difficult, usually because you have developed fantasies that this person is The One, you are going to be together forever, etc., you have your whole life planned to include her, and then. . . all of that is pulled away from you. After the initial hurt, you wonder how you could have been so sure about this person and been so wrong.

5. Take some time to reflect on the relationship. Think about what happened that was good, that was satisfying to you, and those are clues that help you to begin learning what YOU really want in a partner.

6. Take some time thinking about what went wrong. How did you contribute to the problems in the relationship. Be brutally honest with yourself. Dating is a series of failed relationships until we eventually find the right relationship, but all of the failures are potential lessons for us to learn, to improve ourselves, and to become a better partner for the next person in our life. If you don't take responsibility for anything that happened, then you won't change anything about yourself, and you are more likely to repeat your mistakes in the next relationship.

7. Don't try to rush back into dating. As long as you are obsessed with your ex, you will be a lousy partne for anyone else, and it is unfair to start dating if you are not emotionally available to a potential partner.