I found out that my girlfriend keeps her handwritten love letters for his ex. How should I react?

[fisher]

They broke up 1 year ago but I found out that she still keeps her handwritten love letters that she wrote for him. What would you do if you saw them?

[sage2021]

When I was 20, I married a guy in the U. S. Navy. I was so deeply in love with him. During that time he wrote me a lot of love letters. Then after he got out of the Navy he saw all these other women out there and he cheated on me so we got divorced. I could never find it in my heart to throw them in the trash. I still have them and they are over 40 years old now. I don't believe that true love ever dies, so I still have feelings for him. We have a son that he had ignored his whole life. That's what hurts more than anything.
But he seemed so nice and sweet when we were 20.

[CurrentJohn]

I still have letters and pictures from my ex from 15 years ago. That is just something I keep as a memento, not because I`m still interested in her or anything like that. It is just a part of my youth. Something when you are older you can look back at and be like "Ah yes, that was back then when I was still a teenager, what a time..."

I think many people have that, keeping things from memorable moments of their youth in a box or something like that. Like love letters from their early loves, a watch from their dead grandpa, maybe a pokal or ball from the first time they won an important game with their team, stuff like that. Don`t do anything is my advice, she is allowed to have those.

[BadApple69]

You are the new boyfriend…. Don’t sweat the old boyfriend. Me personally I am a keeper of things. You can change your status, change who you date and who you sleep with… you can change almost anything…. But you can’t change history. Me, I keep old pictures, cards, letters, I even found the other day a pair of very sexy underwear from a girl I dated 14 years ago. To be honest, I saw them and it brought a smile to my face. That didn’t mean I wanted to run back to that girl…. It’s just memories some good, some bad. Don’t sweat it.

[strawberrybaby3]

I don’t think it’s anything to worry about unless you see a lot of signs pointing to her not being over her ex. Lots of people keeps things from past relationships, and it doesn’t really mean anything.

[Paris13]

Many of Us Keep Keepsakes from Exes... Doesn't Mean anything Unless you Know for Sure She Has Not Gotten Over Him. xxoo

[Adaeva]

That is proper. There is absolutely no reason to erase memories of you past. That would be like taking away part of your life. Moreover, it is not like she is keep what he, she is keeping what she wrote, otherwise a diary.

[exitseven]

She wrote them and never mailed them? Everybody has a past and sometimes itcis nice to look back on things that happened before. I had a box with all letters I got from former girlfriends and other souvenirs from my youth. The box got lost somehow when I moved. My wife knew about it. She also knew it really didn't mean anything

[BoopBoopBeep]

I wouldn't care. It's a part of her life. That's how she got to where she is. She's entitled to keep that if done in a respectful manner like a chest somewhere. If it's framed on the coffee table that's not going to fly.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s the little things in life that mean the most & as for your girlfriends love letters those are her personal things so respect them & she’ll respect you.

On the flip side, start writing her love letters.

[wheresyourmanager]

My boyfriend saw a bunch of printed pictures with my ex that I genuinely forgot that it’s still in my photo album.
He asked about it and I immediately threw them away because it’s not important to me anymore. My advice is, try to ask your girlfriend about it and from there, see what she will do about it. Don’t worry to much. There’s nothing wrong on asking your girlfriend about it or telling her that you’re uncomfortable seeing those letters.

[ulrika]

1、冷静理性：在回应之前，一定要冷静下来，冷静地思考。情绪的爆发可能会使情况恶化并使问题复杂化。

2. 沟通：与女朋友公开沟通您的感受和担忧。彼此开诚布公的交流有助于建立更好的理解和信任。

3. 了解动机：问你的女朋友为什么保留这封情书。她可能有自己的动机和情感联系。尊重她的感受并尝试理解她的想法。

4. 很久以前的情书：想想这些情书是多久以前保存的。如果是很久以前的事，可能只是回忆过去，但并不代表她对前任还有感情。

5. 确定界限：清楚地讨论你的行为界限和信任问题。如果这种行为让您感到不舒服，请表达出来并确保双方都清楚对彼此的期望。

6. 尊重对方：尊重她的隐私权和个人选择，避免对她的过去过于挑剔和挑剔。

7. 加强信任：建立并加强你们之间的信任。彼此开诚布公有助于建立牢固的关系。

[HippoDino]

It's a bit weird but doesn't necessarily mean you need to dunp her. I'd recommend asking her why she has them and just seeing how she responds.

[wheresyourmanager]

Thissss. Same thing that I will do.

[boggboss]

Probobly nothing aslong as she wasn't obsessed over them it wouldn't be a issue for me the same way I wouldn't get rid of the gifts my partner got me if we broke up

[jahaims]

She still loves him or at the very least is too immature to leave her ex in the past. Sounds like you are the rebound.

[WhiteSandyBeach]

Just let it go.

[SolitarySolace]

Burn them and if she freaks out break up with her

[DreamLife7]

She doesn't like u. So um leave

[Anonymous]

prepare a place in the freezer

[lizziemcquire]

Id dump my boyfriend

[Billlewis]

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