She said in October to try to forget about her and child (she has said this about 5 times now since i've known her. It seems a defense mechanism when overwhelmed and doesn't see a way out of a stressful situation in life).
The literal next 3 nights she texted me saying that she was in a really low place. She recently got a 2nd job, dealing with the kid's crazy baby daddy on a new level, financial stress, getting the child evaluated for developmental disabilities, etc. She said "I wish I would've let you move down here this summer". Then the next (4th) day, she Facetimed me with the kiddo for about 30 minutes like we usually did.
10 days of silence followed and then finally on Saturday she texted "It's his birthday tomorrow and I can't help but wish that you could be here and a part of it... thank you for being so invested in his life and loving him"
I replied that's very sweet and i wouldn't forget his birthday for the world! And no need to say thank you, how could i not love the little guy he's the best
Sunday morning comes and I text a happy birthday card and a message and she replies "thank you we love you"
I replied you just made my day saying that. If you're up for it and have some energy later, maybe you can tell me how the day went?
She says I could facetime you now if you want, we've got a bit of time this morning
We Facetime for 40 minutes with the kid and it was great! Talked about a lot of random stuff and also I got to talk to the kid
Monday morning she says i dont have any pictures or videos from last night but he had a lot of fun
I replied i was glad he did and thank you for facetiming me. seeing him on his birthday meant everything to me
She says "you're welcome 🥹 my one friend that came brought him goldfish lol"
I replied lightheartedly with a bit of a joke and said oh he loves goldfish, for Christmas, she is going to get him a gold fish comforter.
Tuesday i sent her a message saying thinking about them but nothing since...
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She has a lot going on and really single moms have it hard.
She wants you with her child but if course most guys will hate spending time with her and her child and want sex.
So she says forget him.
Really I'd not go for this one sounds like way to much stress 😔. Also she will always have her baby daddy there which of course will make you jealous cause no da they are having sex! Of course
Way to many coworkers and friends do this.
Just sucker like 3 guys to follow them stay on Thier heels but really just not a relationship and giving the good sex to the baby daddy till she gets pregnant agains!
If she is hot and cold means she has other guys who need her attention. She is shopping for attention and a guy to hang with her baby and her... Not a date or relationship 😔
2nd daddy shopping!
Wow man, that whole situation sounds super confusing and draining. It's like she wants you around and cares about you, but then pushes you away too when things get tough. Long distance is hard enough without all that hot-and-cold drama.
If it were me, I don't know if I could take the emotional rollercoaster much longer. Seems like she's got a lot going on in her own life and head that she needs to figure out. Maybe the best thing is to give her some space and stop reaching out first for a while.
Let her know you care and will always be there if she needs you, but that the back and forth is messing with your head too. Tell her to hit you up when she's in a better place but you need to step back for your own good in the meantime.
It sucks but you gotta take care of yourself too, you know? Hope she gets her stuff sorted so there's some clarity. But you don't deserve that stress, bro. Stay strong - focus on your boys and hobbies when she's ghosting again. You'll get through it!