Why do women tear down a woman their ex left them for?

[Anonymous]

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My boyfriend at the time broke up with his ex to start dating again and met me immediately after and she literally insulted my age (I was 26) and how he went for me cuz I’m “easier to manipulate”  we had a 12 year age difference but that’s not a big deal.
She told him “why would you spend this much money on someone you just wanted to sleep with?” 

[Rei13]

Was it a recent breakup? And how long were they together? Sometimes it is easier for someone to take it out on the new girl over the person they have feelings for. Not saying it is right, but it is understandable why someone might react that way especially if it is recent. Just put yourself into her shoes, you’d be hurt too even if you might react differently. I wouldn’t let it get to you and just completely block her so that she is able to heal and move on with her life. It’ll be best for your sanity and relationship as well

If it is a home wrecker situation, well… what do you expect. Same advice though, block and move on

[petitedollbabee]

Depends.. was that woman a ‘homewrecker’ who convinced him to leave his girlfriend to be with her instead? In which case, hating on her aswell as your (ex) boyfriend is justified.


Was the woman just minding her own business when your boyfriend suddenly broke up with you because he wants to be with some other woman instead? If so, then there’s no point in having negative feelings towards that woman.

[Asker]

It’s the second reason. At leas tin my case I’ve experienced

[JacobJordan]

Well clearly it isn't because she mad, she definitely isn't upset he found another woman, she definitely is not mad because she doesn't even care, she's far better than he is right..., he'll never find a girl like her.

P. S. I had to ask for help writing this because things like this don't stick in my head lol. But seriously they probably upset that he moved on because they thought he wouldn't

[molonski2]

Because he has made a decision , the female fears the rejection , and so who is to be her target " The other woman " and the ex , for of course " she " had nothing to do with his actions , that didn't happen.

Dont take to heart , she is just being a general bitch , time heals.

[Asker]

My boyfriend at the time broke up with his ex to start dating again and met me immediately after and she literally insulted my age (I was 26) and how he went for me cuz I’m “easier to manipulate” 😒 we had a 12 year age difference but that’s not a big deal.
She told him “why would you spend this much money on someone you just wanted to sleep with?” 😂

[molonski2]

My answer ( 1st ) really nailed it , she is jealous because you are much younger and probably have a better body too.

[Inbox]

Not only that, but it’s the usual BS answer you hear from older girls when men date younger girls, but not all guys are out to control or manipulate. SMH

[molonski2]

@Inbox Good points.

[Asker]

I would think guys just go for women they’re attracted to. I don’t know if age is the HUGEST factor from what I see. I don’t think we should be saying anything bad about someone older or younger is all.

[Asker]

@Inbox but yeah I hear this so much. “They want them young and dumb” honestly sounds meaner than whatever the guy could potentially be doing with them.
Once I had a guy do something inappropriate to me and this one woman’s response was that it’s because he wanted someone who didn’t have a voice. I was 26 at the time! It’s so victim blaming from these older women. It’s rude to call someone naive when you don’t know what they’ve been through either.

[molonski2]

Very rude , I have always gone out with much younger women , and I've faced the same looks the same comments time after time after time , I can assure you , none of those young women have been " dumb " , all highly educated and extremely street smart.
You should see the looks I get in Australia " They " don't need say a word , same thing.

[Asker]

I think people should just do whatever they want.
I had my life together more than some women who were older than me and they’d still say shit. I was a 6 figure earner at 24 years old working in finance and OMG so many women cockblocked me all the time. Any time a guy would hit on me they’d tell me he’s just playing me. 🙄. You can’t impress everyone.

[molonski2]

Agree 100% ,
Women are more nasty to each other than men , when they see competition , even if they dont want him. I went out with a bank exec , similar position to you , but half my age , she knew my background , and wanted to make some suggestions re a portfolio , at first of course I didn't think she'd be remotely interested , but its just how it turned out. We got pressure from everywhere which really contributed to the demise , plus had to transfer.
People , like to get involved in sht that has nothing to do with them.

[ManOnFire]

Because she feels scorned by it, and probably jealous. I can't necessarily hate any woman for those feelings. I mean, her man left her to go to another woman who was most likely already aware of him being with the first woman anyway. That's slimy enough and I could understand the first woman being upset about it.

[Amara_09]

It’s childish honestly. Why would I put someone down in the first place?


This world is a cruel place for some people. Personally if my ex left me for another woman, my beef is with the guy. Not with the woman he is with. Lol, sometimes people are just going crazy like they are blind.


I want to know so bad since I am also a woman, What did the woman do to deserve? Isn’t the guy the one you should be giving shit?

[silvermoon84]

Did the other woman know the guy was taken? If she did and was still dating/sleeping with him and broke up the relationship then the girlfriend has a right to be pissed, as long as she’s also pissed at him. If not, she knows he’s the bad guy but since the other woman also proved to be competition to her, she’s also going to be angry at her. The former reason is justified, the latter is not.

[journmarie]

Jealously and trying to make themselves feel better. I have been guilty of this before. It’s definitely not a pretty behavior, but you know what they say: misery loves company

[Asker]

My boyfriend at the time broke up with his ex to start dating again and met me immediately after and she literally insulted my age (I was 26) and how he went for me cuz I’m “easier to manipulate”  we had a 12 year age difference but that’s not a big deal.
She told him “why would you spend this much money on someone you just wanted to sleep with?” 

[TomMarks]

Trying to direct her anger at her ex towards you. She is mad at him leaving but still has feelings for him so it’s easier to tear the new girl down rather than him.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Because they're jelly. Super jelly.

[Daybird_]

Because we wanted to be that man’s favorite. We wanted to be special. Women are always comparing ourselves with how society is today, and if we break up and are “replaced” with someone (which of course is expected, men move on), we feel like we were inadequate. Like the new woman is better. Jealousy may or may not take over, and sometimes resorting to insults to make ourselves feel better happens. It’s insecure behavior boiled down, and it’s not right, but it happens.

[Dinklex3]

Probably because they’re hurt and going through a tough time. Their way of coping.

[genericname85]

it's just a way of coping with ones own negative emotions. by projecting these emotions on someone else.

[Sweetsurprize]

If so, it's probably because they are jealous or something.

[Likes2drive]

I guess that’s how she copes with the fact she is angry at her ex

[Ms_Facesitter]

Jealousy and insecurity but most of all because they simply haven't moved on.

[Anonymous]

To help boost their own confidence and self esteem after the breakup

[sheikalana]

Makes them feel better and empowered.

[HouseMoat]

Revenge is a dish best served, cold

[ThrillSeeker01]

Jealous b*tches