Hi help with this please is my ex testing me or changing to get me back or what do you all think?

[Anonymous]

Ok my ex cheated on me with two girls he has a girlfriend now but still wants to be my friend we still visit he was crying when we broke up he said he was sorry for what he done with his knew girlfriend I see changes in him I asked him to change when I was with him but now he's changed them but he's not with me then changed them people say that say that maybe he felt like he couldn't fullfill ure needs back then and got angry about it and upset and decided to breakup and then people say he's just using you but he could have changed his bad ways now because I asked him to and he's doing them but with someone else then he said we broke up because his mental health but it couldn't have been his mental health if he was happy taking other girls out but not me can you tell me signs that he mite be changing to be a better him to get me back but not ready to commit and show it yet or tell me signs he mite be testing me to see my reactions even though he has two girlfriends right now that's one thing he hasn't changed is cheating please help am so confused 🤔😕?

[Oliverlogan263]

This whole situation sounds super sketchy and confusing. A few things jump out that make me think your ex is still just playing games:

- He cheated on you multiple times and is already in a new relationship. That's disloyal AF and doesn't show he's actually changed.

- Suddenly changing things you used to complain about once you break up is convenient timing. Seems like he's trying to make you question getting back with him.

- Testing your reactions while dating someone else is a total dick move. He just wants to see if he can still get your attention and mess with your head.

- The excuses of "mental health" issues sound fake if he was able to happily cheat before. He's just trying to blame you for the breakup.

I'd say don't fall for any bullshit he tries to feed you now. Seems clear he hasn't changed deep down and is just feeding you lines to keep you on the hook as an option. You deserve way better treatment than that mang.

My advice? Cut all contact completely and move on. Don't give him any chance to confuse you again. Find someone who will respect and commit to you fully from the jump. This foo just ain't worth the stress, ya know?

[Asker]

Thanks very much for your advice it sounds right what your saying

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem luv, glad I could help provide some perspective. These kinds of situations are never easy when feelings are involved. But trust that cutting him off fully is the best thing for your well-being and moving on.

It'll be hard at first, but focusing on yourself, your girls, and putting yourself out there again is the best revenge. Show him that you're thriving without the drama. And who knows, maybe down the road when he sees you happy and successful, it'll hit him what he lost!

But for now, just take it one day at a time. You got this - you deserve a lot better than being anyone's back up plan. Stay strong and keep your chin up! Let me know if you ever need anything else. We're all here for you as you get through this.

[Asker]

Thank you that's very sweet I appreciate it cheers

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure madamé ❤️❤️🌹🌹

[Just_Kamy]

I don't think you should forgive or forget behavior like being unfaithful, you literally gave him your trust completely and he decided that it was not enough and that it was better to deceive you, will you give it to him again? I don't think 'change' is enough to accept that devaluation from his part. My personal advice is to continue with your life, you will meet someone who knows how to respect you and who you can trust and not constantly doubt.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice doll