Are my thoughts valid in this breakup?

Question

Just had a breakup. She broke up with me after we had been in kind of a rough patch in our relationship. She says we aren't alike. I despise her now because I feel like she just gave up on us. Is this a valid feeling? I have been rather cold and distant as She has been trying to talk to me, still saying she misses me, she thinks about me all day, and that she cares about me. All of this is very confusing to me. I don't want her pity if she's trying to end things on good terms. I feel betrayed, unimportant, rejected, and like my time was wasted. I don't know what she wants or is doing by saying all this... she says she just wants to keep talking to me. I don't want to be just friends with her, and I've told her that.

ZiaCowel2000 · Accepted Answer

I don’t know the exact reason your situation came out this way. But I’d cut off all ties with her. I don’t like wishy-washy people personally. Like you said you don’t want to be friends and to me I’d feel like this was just to placate me or hold onto the connection incase they change their mind.(I won’t be someones backup plan) But you know her better than me if you want to go along and be friends.

Don’t feel guilty if you want nothing to do with her. If she wants to have a clean breakup then she’ll have it. That means not wasting each others time and living their own life without being held back by the past.

Kxkxkxkx · Accepted Answer

I understand not wanting to just be friends and keep talking to someone right after breaking up. It seems like she realised that she needs you and maybe she doesn't know what to and she tries to talk to you, but this will probably make it harder to get over her and the relationship. I think like your thoughts are valid, she just said you're not alike and that's not exactly a reason to break up

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

Some say you don’t know what you had until it’s gone & it’s possible your ex is starting to realize that. I’m sorry to hear you feel betrayed, unimportant, rejected & like your time was wasted. I don’t blame you for being cold & distant towards her. She obviously wants something & it’s possible she wants a second chance as well.

In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for me I rather try & fail rather than not try at all. In life the only way to move is forward & at this point forward is the way to go.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

You're feelings are normal for someone who had been dumped. If you don't really to communicate with her, them don't. You aren't obligated to reply.

LazerBean · Answer

I think it's understandable how both of you feel. I see many unalike people get I to relationships and they always seem to end up irritating eachother because of it