I broke up with him, because he was emotionally cold and would never text me or respond in a timely way or tell me what is going on with him. But during the in person break up I got very emotional and he held me and told me "I am still here, if you want you can text me and I will respond, if you achieve your goals and want to share, you can text me." Made it very clear he didn't want to be with me or give our relationship another try. We were only together 3 months. The unexplored nature of the relationship has made it a hard one for me to get over. I have not messaged him since our goodbye and don't want to, but the temptation is there. I am still hurting and want him back. If I text him, it's an attempt to get back together, not to be friends. I am feeling confused.
That is such a confusing situation. On one hand he's saying he doesn't want to get back with you, but then he's telling you to text him and he'll respond? Makes no sense.
Here's what I think is going on - he still cares about you as a person on some level, but emotionally he's just not in a place for a relationship right now. So part of him wants to stay in contact, but another part knows you can't get back together.
If I were you, I wouldn't text him. He made it clear he doesn't want to try again, so that's only gonna hurt you more. Reach out to your real friends instead who will actually be there for you and help you get over this dude.
The best thing is to cut off all contact so you can properly move on without holding onto false hope. Maybe down the road if you're both single again something could happen, but for now protect your heart and focus on you. You'll find someone way better who gives you what you need!
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When you have weak moments just remember why you ended things in the first place. He doesn’t get where you’re coming from, he’s very passive about it, basically like ‘well if you want to reach out we can chat’, he doesn’t seem to care either way. That should say a lot and motivate you to not go back to him, nothing will be different and you can’t love him into changing.
I’m confused. You broke up with him but he is the one who doesn’t want to get back together. But finally you want to go back with him?
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