My ex says it’s over yesterday, then needs my help today. What gives?

[Anonymous]

Me and ex been dating exclusive for over a year. We broke it off because she feels like i devalued her because I told her I need more than a year to propose to her cause I want to be more financially stable and want to live together first. So we been on and off until she said she need space to self reflect in December. I try to reconcile but wasn’t working. So yesterday, I did one last try. She said that she’s over it. So I left her place.

Today while I was working, she message me first saying good morning and if I can help her later today to fix her tire before picking up her son from school. She says I still have a place in her heart. But why go back and forth if you say you’re done?

[Anonymous]

Move on bro. She’s using you now. That’s why there’s no real benefit in men being friends w women unless she’s giving you sex. As a “friend,” you’re expected to still look out for her if a fight happens or her purse gets stolen, help her w her car, do this do that, but you don’t get a damn return on your investment. She couldn’t respect your wishes as far as when you wanted to propose. To me a year isn’t enough time. I’d like to live w someone as well before marriage. Seeing someone on the outside is way more different than seeing them almost 24 hours a day. Plus she has a kid. Do you even have a right to discipline the child? There’s a lot of struggles w dating a single mom. If I was you I’d move on. I could be wrong but sounds like she’s trying to lock you down quick marriage wise because not a lot of men will date a single mom at her age.

[Anonymous]

She still wants to be friends. What is so confusing about that. Man up!

[Asker]

She already say that she doesn’t want to be friends and I said the same

[Zestyassmf1997]

Tell her to take a hike. She’s using you.