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Sadly it happens in most relationships, especially if you and your partner are constantly butting heads on things and not agreeing with things , It’s usually high emotions that make you think that way , but if you really love that person , you would try to fix it before you end it with them period And try to compromise with them as much as possible , If you both can’t compromise after you both calm down, then sometimes it’s best to walk away and let them go , sadly some people run to someone else when things aren’t going their way in a relationship thinking that other person is going to save them , and sadly that just makes you a selfish person if you think that way , because the truth is no one else is going to save you , for any relationship to survive and for love to grow , you both have to choose each other over everyone else on this world , you shouldn’t get into a relationship with someone thinking you are still single , and living a single lifestyle , if your partner isn’t your top priority , then you are sadly just wasting your time with that person. The only time you should honestly walk away from a relationship is if the relationship turns one sided , or your partner cheats on you or they are physically abusive to you , other
Than that you are best to try to fix what is broken between you 2 , learn to remove selfishness for each other , learn to resist temptation’s for each other , when you learn how to do that for your partner , it makes it easier for them to do that for you , No relationship is perfect , but when you are with someone that chooses you like you choose them that’s where Love grows , selfishness is sadly one of the biggest relationship killers , what you don’t want your partner doing to you has to be the same for you , why setting boundaries in relationships is the best thing to do , so you are both on the same page with things , if one of you can’t follow the boundaries you both set together then you are the selfish person in that relationship cuz you only think about what is best for you , No relationship will survive with that selfish mindset , Your partner is supposed to be your number 1 over everyone else in this world , the same way your partner makes you their number 1 , Always remember you can’t always be right and they are wrong , no one is perfect , we are all imperfect people. So learn to choose your partner the same way you want them choosing you , if they walk away , let them go , because if they truly loved you , they wouldn’t be walking away period. . Your partner should always be your top priority over everyone , over your friends over your family , over your co workers etc. if you are religious the only person that should be more of a priority then your partner is God
My wife and I have actually never really passionately fought despite being married 14 years.
There was one time some years back where we had a bit of an argument and the biggest argument we ever had in our marriage. We had a friend's party and apparently she told me about it a week before but I either forgot or didn't hear her.
So she arrived home right before the party and I was completely unprepared in my boxers since I didn't even know there was a party. Then she got a bit upset saying, "What are you doing? You're not even dressed to go to the party!" Me: "Uhh.. what party?" 😅
Then I was rushing to get ready but she was getting upset and I was getting upset that she was getting upset because I don't even remember being told about this party.
So then I asked why it's such a big deal anyway because it's not like our friends were waiting for us to begin the party. Then she explained to me that in Japan, it's so rude to show up late to any party even if the people aren't waiting. I'm from Japan but I didn't know that since I spent my teenage years living in other countries.
So I explained that to her along with how I didn't even realize there was a party and said, "Don't worry! I'll take all the blame for being late!" and made some jokes. Then she started laughing and we hugged and everything was fine.
After that she started making a habit of putting these things on our calendar so that I don't forget.
That was one of the biggest arguments we ever had in our marriage but it didn't even occur to me to break up.
Only towards the end right before he died a few months. Because we never had fights until then. Something went wrong with his thinking for about a month or two. He acted like he had dementia. People with Dementia will yell at you and that's what he was doing. Never yelled at me until then. 🤷🏼♀️
With us, we'd have what he called a tiff, we each said what we needed to say, then we just stayed calm and went back to whatever we were doing.
s Not often, no. There’s been maybe a couple times where the thought popped into my head after a big disagreement, but instantly went out of my head after we made up.
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u My fiancée is the best woman I have ever had in a relationship. We occasionally have a disagreement but neither of us stays angry very long, we kiss and hug, and we resolve our disagreement.
You are not ready for a committed relationship until you understand that conflict is inevitable and part of your commitment is to work on resolving conflicts instead of running away. Your first thought should be to defuse whatever unpleasant things are being expressed, then to resolve the disagreement. That may require a few minutes or a few hours of withdrawing from each other, but that should be done so that feelings can subside, not so that you can punish your partner with The Silent Treatment.
To me, that thinking is a sign of emotional immaturity. Inability to handle intimacy, vulnerability and conflict... priorities not in order.
early on yes, in fact, I had nightmares as my brain was processing the stress. Now I don't think that at all. I realized she raises the issues, mostly, on important things or when I need to make a change. We agree a lot, so not so challenging. Many things that can turn to stress are just mis understandings and communication. I correct and just let it go. not that important... pick your battles. Important stuff, important to listen and address root problems.
I don't think about breaking up, I think about how to love, make better, and get along. How to have peace and low stress and high enjoyment. I credit my wife with helping me get to this point of maturity, I had to learn a lot about myself that I couldn't see. Takes time and pressure.
Man... those brains and hearts are important aren't they... It isn't our little toes making these decisions.
The ex girlfriend I was going to marry, I wish I would have broke up with her after the first few fights. She always started them with her possessivebsss. Every sine one if those fights was one big red flag.
If I didn't answer my phone on the first two rings, she would fly off the handle. If went to a restaurant and I was too polite to the waitress, she would accuse me of cheating on her... A waitress, a complete stranger.
I'm happy to be away from her! And her family!
Hell no! Because I know my wife is gonna feel bad for yelling at me, then I’ll hug her and say, “it’s okay, I don’t blame you” and I’ll squeeze her tushy a couple times, then we’ll look at each other and smile and have some amazing makeup sex!
The thought of breaking up with a lady making fried eggs with no clothes on is quite... unconventional, to say the least. I would prefer to keep things simple and just focus on the delicious breakfast.
With an ex boyfriend I grew to detest, I often thought of breaking up with him while we were fighting, not after.
It happens... I wonder if I made the right partner choice, wonder if the situation will keep arising, wonder how the arguments could be avoided or reconciled easier. Usually a good night's sleep helps.
I don't have a partner but if I did then I think we should try and resolve things like grown adults
No, fights will happen, that shouldn't be a shock.
Never. An argument is no reason to break up.
u never have
if it is a big fight.
What a shallow relationship then
Never really had much of a fight.
1st..
Yes, donot always fighting
leave it go
