Why would a guy cheat on me and just not break up?

[Anonymous]

I feel this pain and can't stop crying. I found out my boyfriend cheated 1 month ago, but he denied it, saying it's not true. My friends saw him with another woman, but he kept saying baby it's not true. Did you see me posting a photo with this woman on social media? It's just friendship. Lately he has been acting weird though, doesn't text as much anymore, and stopped saying good night. And yesterday I talked about this with him about how I feel and that I want talk with him what our future plans are after he finish work. And he said he busy he at work now, after he finish work we talk about everything. But we didn't. He just started talking about sex and telling me to take off my clothes and make photo for him in the bathroom after work saying so he could feel me close to him and then today I just saw a photo of him with this other woman so it was true and I couldn't stop crying. I have done so much for him no matter what it was and it hurts now badly just don't understand why he couldn't just broken up with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, I'm really sorry to hear about all that mess with your boyfriend. That's just so messed up of him to do that to you after everything. I know how much it must really hurt too.

Guys can be total jerks sometimes with this kinda stuff, it's like they don't even think about how their actions will make others feel. Some guys just don't wanna be alone so they keep you around as a backup even if they're interested in someone else too. Or maybe he just likes the attention from multiple girls. Really hard to say what's going on in his head.

I think the only thing you can do now is just try your best to move on from him even though it'll be hard. You definitely don't deserve to be treated that way and lied to. Trying to deny it when you have proof is just lame. If he really cared about you he would've been straight up from the beginning.

Best thing is to cut off all contact so you're not waiting around for him. Show him you don't need that drama in your life. And surround yourself with real friends who really care about you and how you feel. In time you'll start feeling better and get over it, even though it sucks right now. You'll find a guy someday who appreciates you and would never do you dirty like that. His loss! Just focus on you for now.

[Asker]

Well just 2 days ago he stole my money too 😢

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, this dude is literally the worst. Not only did he cheat on you and lie about it, but now he stole your money too? That's so messed up.

I know it probably feels awful right now, but you're seriously better off without this punk in your life. Anyone who would cheat AND steal from their partner is just a terrible person. You don't deserve to be treated that way at all.

I'd cut off all communication like I said before, but also consider filing a police report about the theft. Even if they can't get your money back, at least there will be a record of what he did in case he tries to pull something shitty again.

Stay close with your real friends for support. Try to keep busy with other things so you're not dwelling on this loser anymore. In time, you'll meet someone way better who respects you.

Chin up, - this bad situation won't last forever. You've got your whole life ahead of you to find real happiness without this douche bag bringing you down. Feel free to hit me up anytime if you need someone to talk/vent to!

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds like a part of your pain is self-inflicted because you have ignored obvious warning signs. This relationship is over. Break up and move on.

[Asker]

Yes there have been a lot of warning signs and him not wanting to see me now too that i'm 4 days or longer in his city he didn't even bother. It's really painful, and how much money he made me lose last year my father say too move on but its hard

[OlderAndWiser]

Remember that your only hope to find a satisfying relationship is to move forward, and all the happiness that you thought you had in this last relationship was an illusion.

[SolitarySolace]

Probably wants you to be th one to do the breaking up. Probably knows you won't. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

In the past I wanted break up, he would start crying and get emotional. And now when I asked why you don't break up he said because you are my life why should I? But its all funny because just 2 days ago he stole my money

[SolitarySolace]

Just break up, jesus, break up and block each other. Move on

[Danny_dan92]

Your pussy is guaranteed pussy when he cannot get/find side pussy.




There you go. What now?