I still get sad cry over my ex but im into someone else is that fair for my new lover?

[Anonymous]

i wouldn't tell him i still think about my ex. I was with a guy for 8 years before him. we broke up many months ago but then i was with another after another guy never had time to mourn the loss of my relationship. I really like the new guy I'm with. We are about to start dating but I feel bad bc I still get sad and cry over my ex and the loss of that relationship. But i really do feel ready to love my new man as hard as can be and take what happened in the last relationship as things learned and be a better person for my new man.

[zeitgeist057]

Fair? I don't know. But I do know it is perfectly normal to have feelings for more than one person, and normal to feel a sense of loss, sometimes for a long time. It's only the mainstream monogamous culture that convinces people to deny their natural feelings.

I don't see anything what you wrote that is concerning. It seems you need to process your feelings, and that you are excited about your new relationship. The only thing I see being an issue is that perhaps the new guy could be insecure about your feelings, because it's a common "red flag" for people to say someone is "not over their ex" or "emotionally unavailable". These buzzwords could resonate for your new guy with the situation, so you have to decide if you are going to be communicative with him about it and hope that brings you closer, or hide it and hope that doesn't create distance.

[teamvic]

Mmmm well you may not be ready just yet but if you say you're ready then we'll fuck do I know

Best case scenario you get with the new guy and you completely forget all about the old one

Worst case, well someones heart may be broken

[Paris13]

You Sadly Have NOT MOVED ON from Him. Go Slow Though with This New Joe. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xxoo

[Danny_dan92]

Nope

[jahaims]

Definitely not