sure. but just don't expect to go back to the way things were. like, ever.
why break off engagement? don't have to get married right away. can be 5 years from now if you want it to be. but whatever. just know... he will be very hurt and it will probably cause a permanent break up.
Yes it is okay, sit down with him & talk gently. Admit that things are moving too fast and you’d like to remain boyfriend & girlfriend until you feel you’ve gotten to know him long enough to be his lawfully wedded wife. If he truly loved you, he would understand this. You honestly should’ve came out sooner with your feelings & emotions however it is not too late. Go to him in person and talk things out in private.
If you break it off, your relationship is going to die too. Making a proposal is effectively a one-way street. It would still be better to end it than get divorced, though.
Firstly…. you have every right to do as you want. When you want. Secondly, humans are pressured by FOMO- fear of missing out…aka grass is greener syndrome. Thirdly, seeking psychological help, even by FaceTime, is still so stigmatized I bet you didn’t even think of it.
No, don't break off. He might be not a perfect guy for you. But you can still make this relationship work. Communicate clearly about your likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests, family and financial planning. Soon or later you might find another guy but he can be imperfect too. Good luck:)
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Yes, but you have to understand if he doesn't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend either anymore. Nor is that possibility a good reason to remain engaged. You need to be straight with him. But be certain this is the way you really feel and not just cold feet.
Yes, however I would think very carefully about it and be fully prepared for him wanting to break things off completely (kinda like a hope for the best, expect the worst kind of deal).
I think if you speak with him and tell him how you truly feel with the fact you still want to be with him, it will be OK. Relationships are tough but I think your making a responsible decision by accepting your feelings. On the other hand your relationship is a relationship without a ring or a title, it won't be much different in my opinion but it's a great idea to get to know each other better before you get too far in,
I mean you can do. whatever you want. But I'd leave you if I'm being honest. Once I propose and you either say no, or say yes then take it back I'm done
You want to tell him, no I'm not ready for this commitment but let's go back to how things were? Good luck with that, only a very weak man would even stay with you if that's suggested. The time to do that was when he went in one knee
It could work but i think you both need to make some kind of incremental commitment even though it isn't marriage. Most likely it would be living together. Better yet, buying a house together.
Basically he gave you the ultimate proof of his love and you realize there's nothing else you can squeeze out of him. Break up with him and leave. Give him a chance to find someone who really love him.
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sure. but just don't expect to go back to the way things were. like, ever.
why break off engagement? don't have to get married right away. can be 5 years from now if you want it to be. but whatever. just know... he will be very hurt and it will probably cause a permanent break up.
Yes it is okay, sit down with him & talk gently.
Admit that things are moving too fast and you’d like to remain boyfriend & girlfriend until you feel you’ve gotten to know him long enough to be his lawfully wedded wife. If he truly loved you, he would understand this. You honestly should’ve came out sooner with your feelings & emotions however it is not too late. Go to him in person and talk things out in private.
8 months is not "fast."
If you break it off, your relationship is going to die too. Making a proposal is effectively a one-way street. It would still be better to end it than get divorced, though.
Firstly…. you have every right to do as you want. When you want.
Secondly, humans are pressured by FOMO- fear of missing out…aka grass is greener syndrome.
Thirdly, seeking psychological help, even by FaceTime, is still so stigmatized I bet you didn’t even think of it.
No, don't break off. He might be not a perfect guy for you. But you can still make this relationship work. Communicate clearly about your likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests, family and financial planning. Soon or later you might find another guy but he can be imperfect too. Good luck:)
Yes, but you have to understand if he doesn't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend either anymore. Nor is that possibility a good reason to remain engaged. You need to be straight with him. But be certain this is the way you really feel and not just cold feet.
No as it is nothing much. You are not "half married" if that is your thinking.
Seems a bit daft to break an engagement, only to try for one again later, though.
Just let him go free.
Yes, however I would think very carefully about it and be fully prepared for him wanting to break things off completely (kinda like a hope for the best, expect the worst kind of deal).
I think if you speak with him and tell him how you truly feel with the fact you still want to be with him, it will be OK. Relationships are tough but I think your making a responsible decision by accepting your feelings. On the other hand your relationship is a relationship without a ring or a title, it won't be much different in my opinion but it's a great idea to get to know each other better before you get too far in,
You got this.
I mean you can do. whatever you want. But I'd leave you if I'm being honest. Once I propose and you either say no, or say yes then take it back I'm done
You want to tell him, no I'm not ready for this commitment but let's go back to how things were? Good luck with that, only a very weak man would even stay with you if that's suggested. The time to do that was when he went in one knee
No..
Not if you want the relationship to continue you will be ending everything , just stay engaged but don't marry.
It's ok. Feeling as you do, it's more than ok. You must break it off. Do not enter a marriage with doubts.
You can change your mind whenever you want. If he respects your choice, that's just a sign he's one of the good ones.
It's time to give it up and continue with the boyfriend/girlfriend until you both feel very comfortable and satisfied with each other.
It depends if you have a strong reason to do so then you should. If it’s not then you shouldn’t be doing it as you never know he/she could be the one.
It could work but i think you both need to make some kind of incremental commitment even though it isn't marriage. Most likely it would be living together. Better yet, buying a house together.
You're going to end up killing your relationship by doing that. He's never going to forget this.
You really should have thought more thoroughly about this before agreeing to an engagement. You may as well just break it off now.
Basically he gave you the ultimate proof of his love and you realize there's nothing else you can squeeze out of him.
Break up with him and leave. Give him a chance to find someone who really love him.
You can’t break the engagement off and then expect to be girlfriend/ boyfriend again your partner might not want that