You are probably just as confused about the situation as he was when you did it to him. I mean basically you could do it again at any given time, and sounds like you really hurt him. I mean her is this woman you really like and care about and she breaks it off and ghosts on you, and when you just start to get over her... she comes back and wants to pick up where you left and act like nothing happened.
When love someone and the hurt you, and start to get over it and move and then she's back... I mean you started falling out of love her, and now you have to really decide if this something you want. When she can do it again to you without much rhyme or reason to it. Sure, you had you reason and logic for it, but that does not mean it made any sense to him, and now you want to do it again. Give time him all the time and space he needs, and hope he sorts it out. But there is nothing more you can do but be patient and supportive.
But you need to understand, no matter how you feel... if you did it on purpose or not... you seriously hurt this guy's feelings and you need to take responsibility for that.
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Man, that's really messy situation you guys are in. Breaks are always super tricky to come back from, even when both people want to make it work. I can understand why he'd be feeling a little unsure still, even if you apologized. When someone hits you with the no contact suddenly, it does something to your head, makes you start questioning stuff. Him saying he needs a bit of time now is totally fair - he just needs space to process things on his own and make sense of how he's feeling.
I wouldn't worry too much about the comment about you going no contact before. He's probably still feeling hurt over that even if he took you back. Guys don't always show our feelings right away. Just give him the breathing room he asked for without bugging him too much. Resist the urge to constantly check in or ask when he'll be done with his "time" - that'll just make him feel crowded. Let him come to you when he's ready.
In the meantime, plan some little things you can do to show him you're still thinking about him positively. Maybe make him a care package with his favorite snacks or write him a nice note about how much he means to you. Small gestures like that will reassure him of your feelings without putting pressure on him.
He said you guys will make it through, so I think if you give him his space now he'll come around. These things just take time, especially after a break happens. Stay positive - I'm sure once he's had a chance to unwind, he'll open back up to you again. Just be patient and let him work through it in his own way. Hope this helps give you some perspective! Let me know if you need any other advice.
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Wanting to take a break makes a guy think twice about a long term relationship with you. For me, a break is the same as a break up and it would never be the same so I would move on
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