Did I rush into cutting contact with her?

[Anonymous]

Few weeks ago, I suggested to my girlfriend that we should cut contact because I noticed she seemed to be losing interest and acting distant. Despite asking her about it several times and her insisting that everything was fine, it didn't feel that way to me at the time. Now, looking back at our conversations, I'm starting to wonder if I was just feeling insecure and made a hasty decision to cut contact. Even though I was often the one initiating conversations, she still responded promptly and entertained me, although not with the same enthusiasm as before. If she missed my calls, she would still return them, but our conversations weren't as long or effortless as they used to be. Now I'm torn between feeling like I rushed into cutting contact and missing her terribly, and wondering if my decision was right. If I were to reach out to her now, how do you think she would react, and what should I say?

[Mr_twoface]

You should also go with what your gut and heart tells you to do. In this case you felt somewhat neglected and didn’t feel it was a relationship according to your preferences. In that regards you made the right call!

As for reaching out. Don’t reach out and apologise and loose face if she says NO. Instead reach out and tell her you wanted to see how she was coping with it all. To be there as a friend and caring for her. Tell her you do miss her but be totally transparent about how you felt (since this is your best option to be honest and open) and take it from there. People no matter the sex wants to feel loved and exclusive and what you did was to break her heart due to your feelings. Now expecting her to take you back isn’t right! Talk it through and see where it takes you!

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe a relationship is high intensity at turning points but returns to normal intensity after those big barriers have been broken. Some do simmer down to full cessation but this is rare if the relationship is a satisfying and fulfilling and positive one. It's usually confrontation that kills a relationship, and not a lack of mutual investment, even when men divorce, I read the reasons are almost always functional and never based on waning physical attraction, because attraction no longer becomes a litmus for the success of a relationship after other marital issues become more important.

[strateguy632]

dont reach out

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you didn't think this through.

[Asker]

What do you suggest I do?

[JayBones2469]

No. You waited too long