What's the usual way you get over someone and forget about them?

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Can you just suddenly forget about them by busying yourself with enough other activities, or does it usually take falling in love with someone else that makes you forget about them?

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

I have not had this situation since I was 15yo. I picked “fall in love with someone else” but that is not how I would word it, if you like somebody and they don’t like you, the best solution is a crush on a different person, which is not the same thing as love, it might lead to love but it is not love. Falling in love is a v. major statement to me. JMO good luck!

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

It usually takes them to do something very rude for me to get over them OR I have to meet someone who looks/acts/is better and treats me better

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You can’t literally “forget” someone, and you shouldn’t. Everyone who comes into our life has s potential to teach us things about ourselves and about relationships, and no relationship is a waste of time if you learned something from it.

I have moved on by realizing and accepting that the previous relationship was doomed to failure and that I should never want to be with someone if they don’t also want to be with me.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't have to fall in love with someone else,. Just finding someone else to have fun with and share good times with will get me over an ex, regardless of how it ended.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

ever heard, to get over a man, get under a new one! not always a good idea tho, can backfire... im a great believer in this... and from experience females are better at this than men, to get over someone one needs to heal and learn from the experience, this takes time to reflect and accept ones own role they played... even if you feel like the most hurt because reflection can show us maybe we keep choosing the wrong type of person.. accept responsibility... i dont think I've met a guy yet who doesn't diss his ex as some kind of psycho without telling too much of his own faults... and the boundary of trust is our own to keep, once we let a step over where we are hurt by actions and forgive then it happens again we have allowed that circle to get bigger and the boundary has increased.. it may feel the same to us but to the other person they have got away with it again... so for me delving into self acceptance is the best way to move on and stop dwelling in an actual fantasy world... my sister just recently left her husband of 8yrs he was a narcissist i never liked him and he was the only person my german shepherd ever growled at by the way it took her nearly two years and she sat with me two weeks ago feeling love for him, asking about her fault was it her fault, was it that bad etc... accepting these feelings that come in ebbs and flows is also necessary to heal a bit like grieving really... its all part of the process as Morcheeba said! xx

Crimsyjo · Answer

Combination really. I've pulled back crushing by any of the last three. They stop doing things, they do bad or off-putting things, or they don't do bad but they are clear they don't have feelings for you so you have to pull yourself back and move on. The first one, that's rarer I'd say. Cos it's hard to love someone else when u are so focused in one person. At least for me. I would have had to pull back on my emotions a lot before I can get them for someone else. But that's me. When I love I give it my all.

osmanthus · Answer

Personally. I don't. I have an iron-clad memory and with it comes an inability to forget a person who I cared deeply about. I am the person who may stew over many years, emotionally, and mentally, over what happened or went wrong or didn't. I embrace this quality about myself as much as I berate myself over it. Sometimes, the way I remember people can be optimistic, rather than negativistic, in nature, so, it isn't all bad.

The only time I would worry myself over this is if the remembering is disturbing everyday life; won't eat, sleep, etc. and it has happened to me; I'll go hours without remembering to eat or experience many sleepless nights in deep thought. If this is causing you to overwork and you're feeling burnt out, it might be time to sit back and reevaluate the need to visit a therapist, if you can't take stock and get back on track to living your life (meeting bodily needs).

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I have said this many times, but in a relationship I commit to it 100%.

Once it is over though? for me it is well and TRULY over with no chance of a reconciliation!

I may or may not talk to them afterwards depending on how the breakup went, but as for getting over them? The firewall comes up and they are filtered out, by loud music (The Prodigy is my recommendation) Going out enjoying myself and just treating the situation as if they never existed.

I don't go in for all that lovey dovey, woah is me, I'm the victim rubbish although I accept some people do sadly!

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the person. Also depends if you got dumped vs doing the dumping

The human mind has a nasty habit of giving you incomplete memories of a person. Not remembering the full picture.

I confess I got this issue with one “who got away” 10 years ago. I keep remembering the good back then and meander in regret about how I should of down things differently.

But I confess I’ve checked up on her on IG. She’s become someone I definitely would not want to date now. But still the way it ended off was so horrible I wish there was a way to get closure over that. But it’s a vain hope.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I go on a trip by myself to think things over, deal with the pain and remind myself that I don't need a person in my life to be happy. It's nice when we are together and compliment each other's lives, but if it ends, I am still the same happy person I always was.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've never been able to completely forget. How do you forget something that was a large part of your life?
I can see someone like my guitarist doing that because he does HAVE relationships, he just talks girls into fucking him and then never has anything to do with them, again. If I fucked a different girl every other hour, I'd forget most of them, too.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I never forget anyone, but getting over someone is pretty easy for me. If we break up, one or both of us lacked happiness in the relationship. Staying in such a relationship would be unfair and prevent both of us from finding someone more compatible.

gayesblog · Answer

I believe that getting over someone usually involves time, self-care, and focusing on personal growth. Also engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, and setting new goals help may help you. :)

HawkPerception · Answer

If they left me, I just see it as they didn't value me like I'd want a partner to value me. All of exes left me, and I got over it pretty much next day.

And if you left them... then wouldn't you be over them already?

sheikalana · Answer

It takes time for me to get over someone but in the past when I was single if I was going through a break up I would usually not date anyone until I'm completely over the other person and feel ready to date again.

dustybiker2 · Answer

You don't get over people, or forget about them. You get on with life. Doesn't mean you don't take them with you.

strateguy632 · Answer

none of those but being "busy on the prowl" looking for the new one.

nawtee_me · Answer

Lots and lots of alcohol might help…. It will take some time, it took time for you to get here it will take time to let it go…. But you will and be stronger for it. You are a beautiful woman another will come along…

Anonymous · Answer

The guy im in love with is a pedophile. And i still love him. And every time I tried looking for another guy, i never liked them as much as him and compared them to him. Im wondering the same, girl.

Yannae · Answer

I look at why it didn't work and that's enough. Forgetting is not going to happen and I don't want to forget. She is part of who I am today.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

I subscribe to the idea that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

sheenagwapa · Answer

focus on someone else or something else like your interest. you can also try following other people

WhitneySnow · Answer

I just get busy with other stuff to distract myself

Alex-Snow · Answer

I find things to keep me busy and try to find someone else. Frequent masturbation also helps!!!

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is not hard. You meet someone else and move on. Life is short, don't waste it.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Focus on you like take care of your health and mind

DiegoO · Answer

Erasing pics, messages, blocking their email, their social medias account. That's about it. Everything else will develop naturally.

loveslongnails · Answer

I get over a girl by getting over a different girl

Anonymous · Answer

Bachelor time isn't a bad thing. Now that I have extra time to do what I want: I can date again, sports/activities when I want, and hang out with my friends more. Door closes, and a window opens.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Live it pace by pace ( day by day ). And you might meet somebody "new".

SotiCoto · Answer

Deciding to get over them.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t have a way…

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

It's time for me in most cases

handsomelad70 · Answer

Another relationship.

OddBeMe · Answer

Getting under someone.  (Call sign)

whistlingwh0res · Answer

sleeping with some random guy at bar

Anonymous · Answer

Rumple & Dr Pepper

NathanDavis · Answer

I just live

Iron_Man · Answer

You don’t

Loner111 · Answer

Tough

shortster · Answer

Finding someone else

eagle1951 · Answer

find other

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